Guys, Why would a man date somebody who is promiscuos with the hope they are the ones to "cure"?

Question

I ask as my neighbour/ friend is a self admitted promiscuous person. She has slept with hundreds of men of every age and race for fun (yuck) The thing is, she will sometimes get a nice boyfriend, pretend to be happy and things will be well. Her boyfriend will be happy that he has tamed her and no other man could. Then she will start sleeping about again and the men are devastated that she has reverted. Am I right in thinking that these things do not occur to you when dating a sexaholic? Would you date somebody like this and would it bother you? Would your ego let you believe that you could tame her? this has happened with 4 of her partners back to back. she has a child with each.

Answer 1

It's sad but the one thing most people won't do is change.  She is addicted like someone addicted to drugs.  Since she has had 3 kids by 3 different people she obviously is so caught up in s*x she doesn't even think to be safe.  I wouldn't date her unless she truly had changed first.  

Answer 2

this is happening because the guys that she dates are probably codependent and have the "lancelot" syndrome.  in other words, they think that they can save her from herself and restore her chastity.  the guys that she is simply shagging are much happier, because they have no such delusions.  they simply bag it up (for fear of her hundreds of sexual trysts) and go to town.  they leave satisfied.  

whether she is a s*x addict or not, who knows.  there isnt enough info to make that diagnosis.  what matters is that she has those kids that she has to take care of.  i personally would not date someone like that.  i have dealt with codependence and i know in the end that you cannot save anyone but yourself.  it's not always the ego that makes you believe that you can tame the person.  it is the unconscious and almost addictive need to "fix" someone.  it is the obsessive need to control.  

Answer 3

Maybe because they ASSUME she's being promiscuous for the sake of her insecurity, and yearning for real love?  OR she may be acting like she 'needs' someone for the sake of luring them into the relationship...typical playa behavior, and once she's done using him roll.  No one know who they deal with until they get to know them, and for some of those guys they may have been fooled into thinking she was someone looking to 'change' and got played.  It's pretty sad but just goes to show it works both ways in the playa game.  

And h**l no i wouldn't date that woman...this also shows why that whole 'don't tell how many people you've slept with' concept is highly fallible.