Guys, help please!!?

Question

I have a crush on one of the clery at my church. He's married with kids. I'm in college now. I told this one girl at church. I think she told him or he noticed or something. I don't want nor expect a relationship with him. I'm really quiet & shy and don't like actually interacting with people outside my head. Once I tried talking to him & he said he had to pick up his kids & I saw him talking to someone else for a long time. I tried to talk to his wife. I said hello & she said hi & turned her back to me. Once, when there was an emergency, she they called my aunt & uncle but didn't speak to me even tho they knew I had just walked thru rhe door b/c my uncle told him. She gave my aunt her my number for me to call to make sure I was okay but never answered my calls/messages. I asked him what he was going to do this summer & he said visit fam, do consulting, and kids stuff in Aug. He's said I'm a good soul & have lots of talents & abilities. Then, why do they treat me like this? & he seems irritated by me=(

Answer 1

Doesn't god despise adultery?

Why are you in church if you are trying to hit on a married man? oh thats right the church is full of messed up people who seek god and have him fix them. I wouldn't doubt that the church is full of people like you.

thank god i don't hit on married people  

Answer 2

Well, sounds like you do have a crush.  Also sounds like he is afraid to interact with you.  sounds like he is afraid to get in trouble legally.  

If he knows that you have a crush, there is nothing you can do other than keep it in your head.  Try to find someone your age to have relationships with.  I went through the same thing when I was a teenager.  Your not alone.  

Answer 3

Go to an uninvolved neutral counselor and talk to them.  Meanwhile stay away from this man and his family.  Since they probably know how you feel about the man, your presence is making them feel awkward.  You have my prayers.

Answer 4

I'm uncertain how this relates to "men's health".

However, it sounds to me like normal church politics. Everybody loves gossip. By now you have probably grown a tail and two horns... by tomorrow they will be praising the Lord for how you were rescued from the brink of oblivion.

Just go with the flow and within a week, you will be in the back row listening to the gossip about someone else.

Answer 5

Just get him in a room alone and take your clothes off, if he helps himself then he has feelings too.  If he leaves the room, change churches and try it with someone else.  That's what I think.

Answer 6

You need to find someone your own age to be involved with.  He is sending you a message, nicely I might add, that he is not interested in you.  He is married and has children.  You should respect this man, his family, and his responsibilites as a clergyman.  Leave him alone.