Guys, preferably baby fathers, I NEED YOUR HELP!

Question

This is my situation:

I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years. Last August the girl he was sleeping with before me said she has his son (who was then 8 months old).

He has stepped up and sees his son (when she lets him) and pays CSA PLUS an extra £200 a month. She seems to have a lot of control over him i.e. she dictates when he can see his child and also when she needs more money and if his son comes to London she has to come too…she wont let him have his son alone. Therefore she gets to bully her way into his life on a regular basis and as such she has met members of his family that I haven’t.

To further complicate things, I am pregnant and I feel like I am always gonna be in her shadows. He hasn’t really been around me much since he found out. This was a planned pregnancy but he’s acting like it’s a big shock to him! We don’t live together and she doesn’t know about me or the baby so I am sure she is still trying to get back in his life but he isn’t helping because he hasn’t told her he’s in something (which I find suspicious anyway!)

Guys, what should I do?

Answer 1

I say it is time to pack up and move on. If he really has a child with this other woman then he was sleeping around on you, because for the child to be 8 months and you and him were together for the last 3 years, he is a cheating dog. Next he probably has not told her about you because he is still seeing her as well. You seriously need out if this toxic relationship before you get your heart broken even more, and worry about this baby you have coming instead of the loser father.

Answer 2

I'm a girl, but ... couldn't have said it better myself, Just Me.  

Answer 3

Just Me--- has your answer