Guys, what do you think bout this thing? my man ased me to marry him.?

Question

my bestfriend and now my boyfriend for five years asked me to marry him next year. i do love this man so much that i will do whatever it takes to be with him forever.

the problem is,his parents are a bit strict when it comes to that issue. he is the youngest in the family and the apple of the eye. his parents expect all the best from him. we are not sure if they will agree for us to get married. we are both 23 years old and already have jobs. he is so afraid to ask his parents about it, he said he don't have enough courage to ask. i told him if he really wants us to get married then he need to take the risk at least he try.

this thing really bothers me. what can you suggest?

Answer 1

he better learn how to operate without worrying too much about his parents or else he will spend more time being concerned with their opinion than yours.

Answer 2

I think you and your boyfriend should go together to tell his parents because it is as much his responsibility as it is yours because if this goes through, they legally become your family. It is true you guys both have jobs and so it seems like your financially secure and since you guys have been dating so long it seems like you guys are emotionally secure too. I think you guys should just explain it to his parents and try to see it from their POV, just like you'd like them to see it from your POV. If they think you guys are too young, you guys can still get engaged. You never know unless you try. Maybe they'll give you guys their blessings. Have you spent time with his parents, maybe you guys should spend some time together because once you get married, you kind of marry his family too.  

Answer 3

Sorry I cannot resist. Look at how you worded this question

my man ased me to marry him.?

You are both of age. Go away and not tell anyone and get married (Vegas) wait a few months ..get close to the family or closer then tell them and if they get mad  then so be it. They cannot tell you what to do and if they were nice tell them you would have gotten married with all of them there. They have forced you to go away to marry.

Good luck and do NOT let anyone tell you how to live your life.

Answer 4

i think if you guys are ready to get married and able to care for yourself without the help of either parents then it shouldnt matter what they say at all (as long as hes not abusive or immature or anything like that) they will eventually get over it. my husband is 23 and i am 24. i have a 4 year old son he took on as his own. his father was very iffy about us getting married at first, but we did last saturday and he was so happy at the wedding because he saw how inlove we are.

Answer 5

Although it IS important to get the parents blessings maybe they do have a valid reason as to why not you two shouldnt get hitched?  DONT runaway to vegas and do it behind everyones back, that'll make a deeper rift....have him talk to them, they need to explain why they dont want it to happen and then maybe you two could argue why they are wrong.

Answer 6

tell him to grow a pair.  if he's a real man, he'll take care of it.  If he's this scared, why would you want to be with him?  good luck.

Answer 7

I would tell him that if he truly wanted to marry you than it wouldn't matter what his parents thought or what anyone else thought. If you love each other than no one else counts and his parents will just have to deal. If he still refuses to ask them than maybe he's not serious about getting married at all