Guys Only twenty one and up please.?

Question

Ok. I have a question. This guy has been interested in me for a while but I never knew until a few months ago. He's a friend of a friend. Apparently he would tell my friend to try to get us together and to give my phone number to him. Why he didnt ask me I dont know. So anyways he would always be very nice to me when I saw him. One night he was text messaging my friend to get me to go to a bar with them. I couldn't go because i had work early the next day. Apparently this guy got upset. Fast foward 2 weeks later and the next thing I know my friend is telling me this guy has a girlfriend now. Im feeling a little bit lead on. I don't know if I should confront the guy in a nice way of course and ask what that was all about, or just get over it. Any thoughts?

Answer 1

i m 18 but i have open minded .

first when tell u he has girlfriend , it has two probability

1- it is trick to make u call him

2- it is real

and u feel something when u know he has girl , this feeling is normal as he was attractive to u .

i have idea if really want to know if he has girlfriend or not , this friend and another one and his girlfriend invite them to dinner and u will see that he has really girl or not . and tell us result and i will tell next step

Answer 2

Im not terribly sure but to me it sounds like he is quite shy. And maybe he is trying to just make you jealous but not terribly sure about that. You might wanna talk to him about it explain the work situation but its really up to you. Do you find him attractive and think it is worth it? Just an observer's pov but i hope i helped

Answer 3

is he the only guy in town? or is it that he's cute and has a nice car?

i would not say anything and move on.

Answer 4

i guess you didnt give any signs so he moved on.. aint no one got time to wait for ya..

Answer 5

idk

Answer 6

   His whole problem was shyness which some men have difficulty with in their youth.....   It is very often brought on by thinking that a beautiful women would say no to being asked out on a date ...  he will get over it eventually.....  It is his loss after all , not yours ...  Next time though , if you know someone is interested in you and your interested yourself then make it a point to let it be known......   Say nothing of this or you may cause the new girlfriend to be dumped , and would that be fair when you don't even know what he's like.....  What's past is past  ,  let it go ....... Who know's , he may become single again soon

Answer 7

well he thinks your too hard to get.. and that you turned him down.. so its over between you too.. I say you shouldnt say anything to him until he breaks up with his new gurlfriend and see where it goes.. but dont mention it..

Answer 8

meh get over it, its sounds like the dude didn't want to pursue you despite your reasons for not being able to go to the bar. Now if it wasn't a conversation with your friend being the middle man and he actually had the guts to get your number it would be an entirely different story.

Answer 9

Well the guy liked you, but for some reason found you unapproachable in that way. So he was trying to find a way to ask you out that wasn't so 'exposed'. He took the 'I'm busy' as not interested. So he moved on. If he's over 24 I would consider he's actions/and reactions a little immature. If he's younger, well guys are still trying to find the bearings when they like someone, some guys pick it up quicker than others.

As far as what to do now...its a risk, but if he did really like him and you told him how you felt, I'm sure he'd drop the new one like a hot patatoe. Though if he doesn't like you that much that could just as well blow up in your face.

Answer 10

My assumption would be that he felt like he has been trying to get with you for a few months and you never responded. (Ignoring the fact he never directly asked you) He decided that you weren't interested and gave up. If you confront him directly you'll probably get no results and lots of drama. If you actually want to date him mention to your friend that you liked him and your friend can mention that to him when he is available again otherwise just move on.

Answer 11

If you and this guy never had any spoken, acknowledged agreement, you would look ridiculous confronting him about it at this point. Just be cool and go your own way.

Answer 12

i hope this helps somewhat. &&

if you'd like you can just skip my answer since I'm under 21

but i still think everyone has an equal opinion

that could help you no matter the age.

none-the-less

get over it

if someone was really interested in you they wouldn't have just blown you off. plus you don't even know if he just wanted a toy (someone he can fool around with)

guys are like buses - they'll be a next one in 5 minutes (not literally, but i hope you understand what i mean)

you shouldn't worry over what one guy does. everyone goes through the same problem no matter the age.

most guys are just jerks

and females need to understand that just because one blows you off it doesn't mean your life is over (he might not of turned out to be that great anyways)

it might not be good but- if he's really into you then he would leave that girl for you. (but honestly the only way that would happen is if he gets bored/tired of her.)

just get over him.

Answer 13

Maybe the guy was looking for a quick company. Obviously to him you as a person was not important else he would have made and attempt to know you better, or establish direct contact. All he wanted was a girl or any girl to be with. Because you said no, and he thought there was another one more easily available so he would have gone for her.

I don't think you should feel sad, on the other hand you should feel good because you came to know him early and have avoided a more painful situation later on.

Answer 14

Ignore him he is playing you like a fiddle.

Answer 15

yeah, get over it.

trust me he only wanted you for s*x.

Answer 16

Get over it..you waited too long and someone took your place in line....

Answer 17

he only wanted one thing and since you couldn't give it to him exactly when he wanted it, he found someone who would..... feel thankful that you didnt go the bar that night, he sounds like a real *** to me

Answer 18

he did lead you on from what that sounds like but like did he have a girl or did that just happen? you should confront him and see if he was trying to pull that  hit it and quit it bullshit

Answer 19

get over it and move on he has a GF thats forbidden grounds. Just be friends with him for now and later on if he's single and you still have feelings then you can go from there who knows..

Answer 20

Please girl. Get over it come on....he got over you

Answer 21

He's using intrigue to play with you and it's working.

Answer 22

You have got the right to ask,confront the guy about ;whatever you feel might have created some doubt,confusion so you can clear your mind though in  a nice way not all in that bitchy mood.

At times some things have got to be turned or even cleared so go it .