Guys Stop Liking Me When They Find this Out.... What do I do?

Question

There are two things that usually get guys to stop liking me.

The first I don't mind, because if that's all they wanted in the first place, then they're nothing but a bunch of pigs who deserve to catch aids and die.

The second I don't quite understand. Here they are:

Number one, I'm still a virgin and intend to stay that way until I get married.

The second? My favourite singer's Koda Kumi, a Japanese singer and a great one at that. But when I'm talking to a guy about music and they ask me who I listen to , I tell them straight up:

Koda Kumi, Lead (a Japanese hip-hop group), Ayumi Hamasaki, DBSK, and Jonas Brothers.

I don't get why guys stop liking me just because of that. Obviously if they stop liking me over such trivial things, then they're not worth it. But why? I'm 18 and I have a right to like the music I do. I least the music I listen to it clean, fun, and not tainting the youth.

So...a little adivce on:

WHY!?

Answer 1

You need to find different guys. I listen to Utada Hikaru and Orange Range and I watch anime. My boyfriend and some of my friends like japanese music too, but they would never stop liking someone just because they don't approve of the music they listen to. People that shallow are not worth wasting your time on.

Answer 2

If those two things make a guy stop liking you, then he's not worth your time. You can find somebody better. Good luck. =]

Answer 3

THE JONAS BROTHERS NEED TO DIE!!!!

THEY ARE EXTREMELY g*y!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

I really don't understand it either. But what I think u should do is for # 1: Don't tell them right away. But if they ask just say your a virgin and you plan to wait til marriage but also say but if I find the right guy may be will change. Even if thats not how you feel it will challenge a guy more to be that right guy. And not scare him away.

Second music when he asks tell him what you like if he has never heard of it say "maybe u could barrow a CD sometime or come over and listen to it."but also say that "im open to other kind of music too." and then ask what he likes and if you've never heard of it say "maybe i could barrow a Cd sometime." either way there's a possibility to see him again and that is good. And if he says no that means he isn't into you.

Hope this helps,

Que

Answer 5

Maybe they are looking for girls with similiar tastes and lilking a foreigner is something they may not know anything about...having no 'culture' is their problem, not yours.  They are obviously not worth your time.  I hope that you stay a virgin because it's not worth a man's affection, especially if you want to be a virgin when you get married.  Good luck!

Answer 6

Going by your 'additional infomation' I don't think either of those things are why the guys break up with you!

Answer 7

i love the jonas brother im gonna go to the concert cant wait!!

Answer 8

First, I want to say that I found your statement that they should die of Aids is very heartless! No one deserves that!

As for why the guys are like that...well, you kind of answered your own question...the guys that don't like you simply because you are a virgin or because of the music you listen to are not worth your time of day. They are simply immature.

My daughter is 13 and also enjoys the Jonas Brothers and Japanese music, so I have passed on those names to her. :)  She's looking forward to checking them out. She currently listens to Miyavi and LMC.

Answer 9

There is someone out there for everyone. I used to be told that frequently and there was little that was more annoying to me at 18 years old as I wondered what was wrong with me. Funnily enough, it was right and I have now been with my wife over 15 years. Although relationships are about compromise, I am not so sure that means you should compromise your interests and character in order to attract a boyfriend. I admire your stance. If I may be so bold, be patient, don't look and that seems to be the secret.

Hope that helps. Good luck to you.

Answer 10

because boys are a******s well some are anyways and they dont except you for who you are im having the same problem because i like different music than other people like i dont like rap except a little i like the jonas brothers and disney channel music i dont see whats wrong with it i also mlike country and christian music all guys hate that for some reason.

Answer 11

If they stop liking you then they are not a nice guy and not the right guy for you.  Accept that it wasn't to be and move on.  Keep looking and you will find a nice guy.

Answer 12

I love the Jonas Brothers! Anyway, those guys  are just jerks. if they can't accept you for who you are, then don't accept them as your bf. Someday you will find a guy thats respects you. And then all those guys you dated that were pigs will just disappear. Good Luck! = )

Answer 13

Cuz they dont appreciate you for who you are. Stay yourself, and remember the right guy finds you (not the other way around!) Hold your values keep your standards and stay encouraged :)

Answer 14

Maybe they feel that you have nothing in common with them.

Answer 15

thats just strange, but if a guy wont like you bc of the music you like, he really really isent worth it, and somewhere there is another guy that likes that music too, other wise, koda kumi wouldnt be a sucessful singer.

Answer 16

Well.. the first one is common... They don't deserve someone. And you are a very smart girl since you are going by your values and morals.

Well the second one is very weird... You do have a right to listen to the music you want to. Koda Kumi is a good singer.

Guys are idiots.

Answer 17

Could you come off narrowminded?  It might seem as if those are the only things you listen to, and might not respect what they listen to

Or maybe the whole-asian-pop idea scares them

Just tone it down a bit at first.  Don't seem too excited over it.  Say you listen to some japanese stuff (if it is japanese, sorry, i dont know), but throw in some other things, just so it doesnt seem to be an obsession.  then as you can get to know the guy, you can slowly let him know how much you like the music

and if the boys dont respect you for wanting to be a virgin, then yeah they are creeps.  I will be one until I'm married as well.  HIGH FIVE!!! and kudos to you for recognizing they are creeps, and making such a mature decision

Answer 18

1st - they have no f*cking clue who that is.

2nd - music is a big topic

3rd - a 18 y.o. who likes the Jonas Brothers SHOULD be dawned weird.

They just don't like your music, and music is a big deal to most guys. Music tells a lot about a person, and they probably think you're an immature, anime freak. But the fact that you're a virgin doesn't help tell them that you're not... and how do you know they like you in the first place?

Answer 19

You could just tell u like the Jonas brothers at first and then when u get to know them better you could be like "i found this band....." and tell them about the japanese group. it might not seem so weird once they know you.

Answer 20

good for you that you want to be a virgin til marriage

Answer 21

eventually you'll meat some guy whos the same way. im 16 and i listen to Hannah montana and the rolling stones some girl like that...

Answer 22

Chances are there aren't a lot of boys out there who love Koda Kumi, Ayumi Hamasaki, DBSK, and the Jonas Brothers.  Especially the Jonas Brothers, since they know who they are, and they're a pre-teen girl thing.

Sorry, but that's probably how it is.

But boys shouldn't judge you just on your music tastes!  That's overly-critical.

Answer 23

Take this advice from a guy himself...

1. You're a very smart and admirable person.

2. We like what we like.

If other people don't like you...whatever. Just tellem to kick rox. Instead of being those s*x-crazed poll girls, you seem very ambiguous and down to earth.

Answer 24

I was basically in your same boat when I was your age.  I stuck to my values and about 10 years later met a WONDERFUL man.  We have 2 beautiful children and he really respects that I saved myself for him.

..........Reasons why men are like that, who knows.  They tend to think with the brain that's hanging between their legs.