Guys and Girls just friends?

Question

Why would a guy in a great relationship want to talk to other women? My bf talks to a girl he knew from a class he took a few years ago. I was curious so I asked him a few questions: how long they had known each other, if they had ever hooked up? he said since the class and no, they never had any sexual contact. He said that she is just a friend he chats with occasionally but it bothers the h**l out of me! I think she wants my bf, but I don't want to control who he talks to. SO in general, why do guys feel the need to have other women friends when they are in a relationship? and What should I do?

Answer 1

i understand why you fell like thta. but theyre just friends. if you see anything that really really tells you she's hitting on him then talk to your bf.

Answer 2

its normal for men to have women friends the next time you are out with them study there body language.  also if she dont have a man be prepaired for her to take yours.

Answer 3

Mate, you need to take things with a pinch of salt, i know u feel a ltlle insecure becos u dont want to loose ur man but, i dont think the other girl is trying to take your boyfriend, and be careful that ur curiosity, doesnt lead to posessiveness,  it can ruin a good relationship, give your boyfrend space to talk to any girl he likes, u're in a great relationship like you said. It is a mature relationship that allows the other patner his or her space and to have fun with other people, its shows that u respect, love and trust each other.

My immediate suggestion is to be friendly with this girl as well, not for the purpose of establishing ur territory (That is very childish), just talk to her like you would to someone making a friend, and u'll see that ur boyfriend will appreciate that more than if u were silently brooding about both of them!!

Oh and the answer to your question about why guys feel the need to be friends with another woman, is becos, humans in general are free spirits, they do not like to feel tied down or controlled (even if they are in a committed relationship and its the same for females too!!)

Answer 4

I guess its the same as us girls having guy friends while we are in a relationship. Girls are just more jealous. I don't think you should do anything. If he decides to hang out with her tell him to take you along or tell him you want to meet her. It wouldnt be fair for you to make him give up a friend because that could possibly break the two of you up. He might get freaked that you're being so weird about it. i mean and you did say he said he talked to her occasionally, if it was everyday and a few times a day then i would start to worry and start setting some rules and stuff but since you say its not i wouldnt worry all that much. Good luck...

Answer 5

Hi, I am 52 YO and been in the same situation but the other way around. Its not you and I bet no one wants to steal your bf. Have you thought maybe he is trying to make you jealous? Maybe try alittle reverse and pretend it doesnt bother you at ALL. I know it bothers you it did me too but this was years ago my situation was she was trying to make me jealous because I had an old friend hanging around which made her jealous so she used this guy to make me jealous, kinda like me taking my own medicine. Have you talked to some guy to cause him to be jealous? Think about it alittle if there was something maybe you did that was cause him to do this. I hope I have been some help.  

Answer 6

"Why do guys feel the need," as if having friends was somehow wrong. You sound like you're against friendship and caring for others in general. The world needs more friends, not fewer. He has the right to be friends with anyone he likes. He feels the need to have friends for the same reason you do. Those friends' sexual equipment has nothing to do with it. The problem here is your jealousy and possessiveness. What you need to do is a little introspection to discover why you feel so worthless that you feel the urge to forbid him from even talking to women he's known for years. Hold this tight grip on him for long, and you'll smother his love for you.

Answer 7

You may be forgetting the fact that a friend is just that.The fact that you are allowed to know about her supports that.

Some women can be better company than some men.

I have just had a 2week caravan holiday this year with 2 dear friends who just happen to be women and both are much younger than me.One astonishing thing is that this was our seventh year,and another is that one has just moved into a house with her 3 year b/f (thats Mandarin)and the other (Michelle) got married last year.The girls tried to have their guys down for a week but they just dont like our idea of a holiday.

What I am trying to show you is that friends are friends and, unless

they give you cause for concern ,just be more inquisitive than concerned.