Guys and Shy Girls? Why don't loud people like shy people?

Question

Why don't guys tend to like shy girls? I'm not shy, but my best friend is. She has the hardest time talking to people, anybody, because she is so shy. I feel bad because she is actually really fun, nice, outgoing(once you know her good), and pretty. My guys friends tell me they think she's really cute but she's sooo shy that they don't like her that way. I wanna help her but I just don't know why they don't like shy girls. So guys, why don't you? Do people tend to think that they are insecure or mean? Why!!

Answer 1

hmm. i'm not sure. i've always been loud and stood out, also i had a problem with keeping my thoughts to myself. so you could say i've always been the opposite of shy. i did however ask my now fiance what made him like me at first and his response was because i wasn't shy or intimidated. i did ask him why guys rarely go for the shy girls, he told me because it takes them so much longer to get to know the person fully and they can't judge who the person really is before getting into some type of relationship with them which at that point someones feelings would be at stake.

Answer 2

kuz they want somebody to be loud with probably

Answer 3

aw she sounds just like me, im sure she will find someone i did eventually just a lot later than everyone else

Answer 4

Shy people seem very unapproachable. People that are shy often give off the impression that they don't want anything to do with others because they don't make an effort to talk to other people, even if that isn't what they mean to do.

Answer 5

i dont see anything wrong with shy girls :S they open up when u get to know them... most of them are better people than the outgoing "hot" girls anyway

Answer 6

i think we are scared of shy girls, its easy for us to be attracted to loud and shiny things, its in our nature, kinda like monkeys! it takes someone with brains and courage to approach a shy girl, in a way your friend is lucky because she is most likely going to hook up with a guy who has a head on his shoulders.

Answer 7

They probably just don't want to go through the work of having to figure out what she's thinking/feeling.  It's just easier for them to be with outgoing people.

Answer 8

I'm very shy and i most of my friends are loud and outgoing. They like me for who I 'am.  

Answer 9

my boy friend says that he doesnt like shy girls becasue that shows a lack of confidence, and if a girl doesnt have confidence, thats not that "hott". i kind of agree..

Answer 10

She'll find someone soon.

She sounds alot like me..

I'm reallyyyy shy and quiet unless you get to know me.

I never really had any boyfriends until 8th grade because I was too shy to really talk to them. Eventually I became a little less quiet around guys and it all worked out. [:

If she likes a certain guy [or any guys..] and you know that, have her hang out with you and him. She'll feel comfortable with you there and will be able to talk to him easier. And some guys are more understanding if you tell them right away that you're shy. Have her tell them that, then they'll probably try to get to know her more.

That's what I did when I first met my boyfriend I have now, and now we've been together for almost a year and I'm not shy with him anymore. [: