Guys and gals i need some help?

Question

im a freshman in college going out of state and my high school girlfriend is at home. I'm in love with her but people keep telling me to just let her go and move to someone else. I don't think i can, but how hard is it to keep long distance relationships alive ? thanks for the help !

Answer 1

If you and your girlfriend really want it to work it can. It does take work...i'm not going to lie about that, but it's possible. You two just need to stay committed to each other and be ready to make sacrifices for each other. In my opinion...in the end, it's always worth it because you're with the one you love, or like whichever the case may be.

My boyfriend and i have been in a long distance relationship (5000 miles) for the past year and a half and we're still more in love than ever. We were both still in high school then so we couldn't see each other a lot. In replace, we made time to talk everyday: either by phone, text or computer. And we would occasionally send emails to each other explaining our feeling for each other and our relationship because it's just nice to read it and instantly feel that comfort and warmth wash over you when you can't kiss or hug or cuddle all of the time. We'd go months without seeing each other but we made the trip whenever one of us could. And now, he's moved to my city to be near me and go to college near by (3 hours away). I'm a junior in high school right now. But we're pretty positive everything will work out for us.

Some of the tips i could give you if you decide to try it...

~You can't really hide anything from each other, everything has to be full disclosure because it's easy for someone to get suspicious or jealous no matter how easy going you say you are.

~Make sure to keep the lines of communication open at all times. When you two have a fight it'll be easy for one of you to just storm off and not talk but you have to talk through fights and misunderstandings fully. They can sabotage your relationship. You can't just run to each other's house and kiss and make up so you have to rely on talking.

~Don't be afraid to talk about worries or concerns of any kind, the other person will be able to tell and it's easier to distance yourself in a relationship.

~Don't jump to conclusions and always think the best until you have a reason not to. Like i mentioned in the first, it's easy to get suspicious but you need to have enough self control to hold back until you get the entire story.

Long distance relationships require a lot of trust, honesty and communication but they're not impossible. Do what you and girlfriend want to do, work hard for what you want and you'll be fine.

Best of luck :)