Guys and ladies, what is the first thing that the opposite s*x attracts you?

Question

Is it their looks / level of confidence?

Their eyes / smiles?

or etc?

How important do you think it is?

Answer 1

i think no matter what people say it's always the way someone looks - you could argue that it's personality if you say like you were attracted to the way they carried themselves or their "ness"

if you become attracted to someone after you know them then it may be more of a personality thing.

i think that me personally have always been attracted to the "ness" of people because I've noticed that I've dated a lot of guys who look very different but their personalities are all pretty similar.

Answer 2

I know it's a cliche, but personality is the first thing I notice about someone I meet, not wether or not they are wearing the latest fashion trends, or they are good looking or not. I like to see how they interact with their pre-established network of friends, and then that determines whether or not she would be someone worth my time.  

Answer 3

In a guy the very first thing, like in split seconds, that attracts me is their general appearance.. are they clean, nice hair, body type, style etc. but as soon as i talk to him all those things that attracted me to him could be thrown out. Then it's personality.. the best is a great sense of humor. I love it when he's self confident but not arrogant or cocky.. that is sometimes hard to find :]

Answer 4

eyes and smile and body language

important first impression

Answer 5

Looks. As long as everything is proportionally correct, it's alright.

Answer 6

looks . . . and likes . . .

Answer 7

personality and a sense of humor. i love to laugh and i act really dumb. if you can get me to laugh then we're good. looks aint everything, they only get you so far in life

Answer 8

Obviously, we all are human beings and long for companionship. Today in our day and time we don't get enough of kisses, hugs, encouragement and true love we want because in our society some of us through experiences get deeply hurt from another and shy away from the true love we know of and may lose out from a good relationship. Not to change the subject, but war is labeled on TV.  American is taught by our government to fight not make love. To some looks are important because they don't want to be seen with that person.  Then you have a man or a women  not the greatest good looking person with a wonderful and loving personality. Wow! I love it. Having a high level of confidence make one strong and good karma goes through and through. When you see someone across the way with lovely eyes and a smile surely you wonder, "What is her or his name? My main point I am getting across is that if we be ourselves and focus on treating each other like a sister or brother our world will be awesome. No killing with words, but with love maybe we will find true  love in God? Or that someone for me or you. They say best friends make good lovers. I know because I have experienced. My good friend and i can still hang out while the Universe has shown us the way.  Ask the universe what you WANT, receive it and hold on to it.

Answer 9

looks and personality.

thats what mostly matters.

Answer 10

Yap! For me it's exactly their eyes and their smiles, it's always the physical that attracts you first. However, I think what's more important is the way he brings himself. I don't think I'd be attracted to a physically perfect man who snorts when he laughs, stumbles every time he walks, has very low esteem and self-confidence that shows and etc.

Answer 11

looks not important is because they can look great by look but cant tell they will good in behaviour

confidence is important it show how u can be suppotive if u faced trouble in relationship in later on can u faced it in right way or

end with break up

eyes show u true heart what u feel about the person something honest

smiles makes u feel that the person will not hurt u  

Answer 12

Looks.

Anyway, it is subjective, since beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder.  

Answer 13

Personality and brains

Answer 14

Definately confidence (but not over confidence..or else it can seem self absorbed) and also the ability to make me laugh

Answer 15

looks. deffinitly eyes :)

Answer 16

The eyes are the most important because it allows you to look inside a person. Eyes tend to speak to you.

Answer 17

Physically: pretty little toes

Mentally: depth of personality; such as if I ask her if she is democrat or republican and she chooses one, and I ask her why, she gives some lame excuse like, "I don't know, I guess because my dad and mom were."  I cannot stand shallow persons.

Or if I ask if the universe goes on forever, and she says, "who cares, we are on earth."  It happens.  It does!

The importance is as great as you want to take it with him/her.  If it is a one-nighter then all is void; if it is a long-laster than all apply.

Answer 18

In this order...and I'm being VERY honest!

1.  looks (sorry but it's true for everyone!)

2.  confidence

3.  sense of humour

3.  strong hands, clean groomed nails

4.  good conversationalist

5.  good listener

6.  not obese, but not necessarily buff either

7.  no sweats, don't dress like a slob.

8.  smell nice, wears cologne

9.  happy in their job

10.enjoys travelling

By the way my husband fits all the above criteria!