Guys and men, how would you feel if......?

Question

after knowing a girl for 9 months and after 6 months of being together you told her you loved her but she didn't say it back, she felt she didn't feel that way, yet, and said it as gentle as possible?

Answer 1

Kelly you've been watching too much Guiding Light soaps....lol

Gently she weeps.

Try for $2.00 shot this time.

Who loves you for starter:)>>>>@

Answer 2

I,m not a guy, but even for a girl it would hurt.  Sounds like the guy should cut his losses and walk away.  Sometimes, just doing this will make the girl realize she does love him.  If not, then at least you know for sure and can quit wasting your time and love on someone who dosen't have the same feelings.

Answer 3

female here...

my bf.... now my hubby..... told me for several months that he loved me.... i explained to him that i could not say those words unless i was absolutely sure of my feelings and i truely did love him..... nothing changed in our relationship while we dated and eventually when i was positive I told him that i loved him..... he knows i am a very honest person and respects me for that.....

give it time and please be patient....

after all... no one wants someone saying something just because you think the other person wants to hear it...

Answer 4

i am not a guy, but if i were, i would appreciate her honesty. if she is being upfront about it, rather than saying it and not meaning it, then i would have more respect for her for not being a liar.

just my 2 cents!  

Answer 5

Heartbroken, but not as bad as her yelling at you for it.

Be a little disappointed, felt like I wasted a big chunk of time.

Answer 6

I knew on my first date that the possibility was there!  After a few weeks of dating I knew I loved her!  In 4 months we were engaged and we married 11 months after the first date and we have been happily married over 11 years now.

IF you don't feel it in 6 months of dating I don't think you will ever feel it! ! !   Cut the guy loose and let him move on! ! !

Answer 7

I would feel disappointed that she did not feel the same way as me, but I would also feel glad that I have found a woman who can be honest with me even when doing so is difficult, and also be gentle about it.  I would definitely want to keep trying to get her to fall in love with me!

Answer 8

  I would then believe that she was just sticking with me until something better comes along.  After all, she is saying I was OK for now but since she doesn't love me, our relationship wasn't viewed as important or permanant.   I darn sure wouldn't ever say "I love you" again.  

Answer 9

any man would be heart broken...it takes alot for most men to bare their heart and say those three words.  For it not to be reciprocated would be devastating.  That being said if she doesn't feel it she sure shouldn't say it.  I think that would hurt worse.

Answer 10

I agree with rope.  It is time to move on.  Either the electricity is there or it is not.  I would harbor No bad feelings

Answer 11

I WOULD THINK THAT WE DID'NT WANT THE SAME THING IN OUR RELATIONSHIP SO I WOULD GO FIND SOMEONE THAT WANTED THE SAME THING