Guys.. can you tell me why this happens?

Question

im pretty much what you would label a nice girl and im smart and not that bad looking, not to sound stuck-up. i like to have a good time but i know when to stop and i know how to control myslef. guys seem to come to me for a good time and realize i like math and science and woahh thats a turnoff. how can she like the discovery channel? why does she watch the history channel when she doesnt have to? i just happen to like learning. i am a firm believer in it will happen if its meant to be. but why arent guys attracted to someone like that? i mean do they really only wnt someone who will have s*x with them all the time? or act dumb? seriously.

everytime i think something good is happening in a relationship they ditch me for a girl who is better looking or who will go farther.. it upsets me because i know i am doing the right thing.

Answer 1

aww sweetie im sorry. im a guy and i know how we can be. i mean there are alot of guys out there who just want a girl who will make out with them and have s*x and do stupid things like that. i can tell that you have alot more self-respect then those girls and you seem really nice so you deserve a much better guy. i personally am alot more interested in a girl's personality then looks, and if youre good-looking too then you really have the whole package so dont worry about those jerks who want you for your body and stupid stuff like that, i dont understand it. but trust me when i say that you deserve a better guy than that and also that you will find one. i promise! please trust me. because i really really think you will if i met a girl like you i would go for her in a second so just give it a little tome and you'll find somebody.

best of luck ;) i hope this helps and im sorry these guys havent realized how nice you are, but honestly if any guy says something like that "why does she watch the history channel" or hwatever, dont even bother with him cuz he doesnt deserve you. i watch the history channel too and im not afraid to say so, "YES world, i love Modern Marvels" haha, anyway good luck :)!!!

Answer 2

Im pretty sure almost every guy likes the discovery channel for one show or the other because theres a lot of sweet stuff on it, same with the history channel. If all the guys you have met have done what you have said, that means you have gone for/attracted the wrong type of guys, because all they care about is getting action. Just keep looking because lots of guys are looking for good girls, and they really won't care that you like math or the history channel. And you are definately right when you say you are doing the right thing

Answer 3

You keep doing exactly what you are doing--being true to yourself.  There is nothing wrong with being smart and wanting to learn.  It will put you way ahead of most girls your age.  Just read the posts on this website--many of them are an embarrassment.  The grammar, sentence structure and ignorance is scary!  

You have your whole life for boys and the ones that matter will appreciate your intelligence.  And, yes--most high school boys are only interested in the girls that put out but all that will catch up with them eventually (the boys and the girls) and you will be the one on top (not literally!).  

Keep doing the right thing and the right things will happen to you.  You will be rewarded eventually.  Just be patient.  Don't envy those girls, pity them.  

I went to my 20 year high school reunion a few years ago and it's amazing how life has a way of evening itself out.  It was bizarre how the girls who seemed to have it all in high school are either rough looking hags or overweight or divorced with lots of kids (some were all of the above!).  I was the awkward, smart girl who boys didn't want anything to do with and now I'm one of the few with an awesome husband and daughter and a college degree making lots of money (and I'm still thin!).  I hated high school but love the life I have now.

Keep it up, you're doing good.  I wish there were more of you!  You're time will come and it will be so worth it!

ADD:  I should really tell you the whole story........I was the awkward smart girl who met a boy I was crazy about.  I let my guard down and believed him when he said he would dump me if I didn't "do it".  So I did it, got pregnant, got dumped anyway, he married my best friend and I graduated with a two year old (boys don't want to date moms either) and spent the next 18 years as a single parent.  My daughter and I both graduated college, I married 5 years ago and it is finally MY turn.  So, trust me when I say you ARE doing the right thing.  Have YOUR turn now so you don't have to wait until your 40 to get it.  Some never do but I was determined enough to make it happen!  YOU take care of YOU and keep doing what you're doing.  You're on your way to a great life.

Answer 4

You are doing the right thing, but I know it's really frustrating. You gotta stick to your guns though, there is nothing wrong with you, you just have to trust me when I tell you that there ARE guys out there who dig smart girls.

So maybe you need to be a little more discriminating when it comes to choosing guys? Hey... if a guy can't see how great you are, then their loss. And may I suggest that nothing turns a guy on more than not being able to have something that they think they might want.

You're just gonna have to be patient... or date older men, cuz we take a bit longer to mature and figure things out. :D

Answer 5

most guys just want the action from a girl. i think its cool youre into school. down the road youll be much happier then the girl who puts out. whatever happens, happens for a reason. youll get the guy someday

Answer 6

Start putting out.