Guys: do you get all emotional and weird like this?

Question

i feel weird when one of my friends flakes on me, i get all emotional and offended and take it really personally...i get really angry too and over sensitive and i'm a guy and when i act like this i feel like my sister when she's pms-ing, do you get like that too?

i feel like a woman when i get like this wtf haha

it's just it really hurts my feelings when they won't return my calls or texts and want to know if it's weird to get like that. i'm lame

Answer 1

Why should you feel like the bad guy here when someone else screws up?  You have every right to be offended.  It's a matter of principle to keep ones word.  Flakes are not tolerated well in the business world, and I tactfully call people on it all the time.  It's a matter of courtesy, respect, and honoring our committments.  If someone says that he is going to call you or meet you, then those plans stand unless he cancels.  To not show or call is ignorant and demonstrates a gross lack of respect.  Tell your friend he needs to raise the bar and expect more from himself with how he handles his friendships.  If that is too much work for him, make new friends that are worth your time and energy.  

Answer 2

im the same way i take it extremely personally dont worry about it  your not lame

Answer 3

My friend you will never now what it feels like to be a women...

It'll be ok....life will go on....just be strong and your make it though alright

Answer 4

men have emotions whats wrong with that, it is dumb for women or men to  ignore a man's emotions

Answer 5

thats just normal cos u know guys have emotions too lol

Answer 6

Wow, dont get so clingy and needy...otherwise you wont have any friends.

I think you are just going through a phase while growing up where you have low self esteem...

Answer 7

bienrad,

jayb above is right -- just try to resist reacting that way.  I'm guessing in real life you're not lame, but from time to time perhaps you take things too seriously?

Think of the things that make it nice to be around your friends -- they're probably a lot of fun, easy to talk to, flexible and ready to adapt their plans.  (But maybe not the most reliable!!)  Now imagine if talking to them were like walking on eggshells, and if not picking up on their non-verbal cues & hints resulted in getting told off.  Would you still want to spend time with them?

Try to relax and don't care so much.  This isn't a criticism -- i'm a little sensitive myself -- but others will get anxious around you if they sense some sensitivity, and you'll find they might avoid you.

Answer 8

ha ha ha! i get the same way! especially when my friends don'tt return my phone calls! its hard when you get like that! kus, its like you try everything to get over it and it just dosent work! i know what your going through bud!

Answer 9

It sounds like you may be a little insecure, and we all are to some degree.  Try to resist reacting this way and eventually you'll be able to control it.  After a while, people will get annoyed with this behavior, so it's better if you take care of this now before you lose friends over it.