Guys (or girls if you can offer help) How would you feel if

Question

Your 22 year old girlfriend of 2 months told you she got sexually abused by her boyfriend when she was 16 (she hadnt told anyone before) what would you be feeling about her and the situation? would you just want to run?...I dont feel like Im being totally honest to my boyfriend unless I tell him something about this even if I dont want to.

Answer 1

Get her help. How does she feel about you, men in general and s*x. Does she have a great relationship with you?

Does she have a healthy s*x life? Does she have the big O by herself or with you?

I don't know how bad the abuse was. Mental or phsyical?

Answer 2

Well, i have gone through somewhat the same situation...  not really sexually but extreme mental abuse and a good amount of physical abuses with someone close to me...  If you think he's a genuinely good guy then he'll understand and telk about it with you, but if he is not a good person, then he might run or worse...  Don't make him think that you're asking him to feel sorry though... just be honest.

Answer 3

I was sexually abused by my boyfriend too when i was 16... i havent really told anyone about it (not even my ex who i dated for 8 months) until my new boyfriend now. It took me atleast 5 months to tell him. I lied to him about a lot of little things because of it but when the truth came out he understood why i wasnt able to be honest about it to him before. He was really supportive about it so maybe your boyfriend will be too.. You shouldnt tell him though just because your afraid not to be honest... ya honestys important but so is your confort level.. if he loves you he'll understand why you didnt tell him before.. just tell him when your ready. And i doubt he'll want to run.. if he does then his just an as.shole, and it will just show you that you deserve someone better. i hope my personal experience helped good luck and i hope your ok <3 :)

Answer 4

i would be scared of course because i wouldn't know what to do around her

Answer 5

As a guy I would def. not run.. I would feel you care alot more about me and want my trust so much more than anyone else since you said you havent told anyone before.. It would make me angry at the guy who did it and would make me want to find him even though it was so long ago.. I mean this is just my opinion, but i def wouldnt run, esp if I care about you alot. I would want to help you out in any way possible

Answer 6

depends on you bf.  he could feel really bad for you and compleatly understand.  or he could feel trapped .  depends on what kind of a guy he is.  you make the call. but i would tell him, just so u have no secrets with him.

Answer 7

Ok kiddo i would feel like i am i going out with a bad person. And Why didn't she ever tell me or anyone else about it before

Answer 8

I would confirm to her i would never do such a thing and be a great boyfriend to her =).

Answer 9

I wouldn't keep it to yourself let him know, besides i know how you feel only i was 15 and i got raped by the boy i thought liked me  

Answer 10

I would feel sympathy for my girl, but would leave it at that. I certainly wouldn't run, but I certainly wouldn't want to get into a deep talk about it, especially if re-living the traumatic experience is painful for the girl. Of course, if she wanted to talk about it, I would be there for her. Running away though, no way....

Answer 11

I think you should tell him... It will definitely bring you two closer and if he is a real man than he would be looking for that guy to let him know how he feels about that (I WOULD).... You deserve somone that will protect and care for you not someone that will do the exact opposite... Just be honest and if he has a problem with it than he doesn't love you....