Guys:Is it normal for my bf to do so?

Question

I've been with my bf for more than 4 years,we get on well and love each other (even thinkin of living together) but there's a little problem...It's almost always me that wants to have s*x,I wear s**y lingerie,dance and things like that to turn him on...he appreciates a lot but sometimes he says he's tired or doesn't want to..I understand he works 8 hours a day,but he can also stay for more days (like 5 days) without doing it!

Is that normal?! Do you ever say "no" to your wife/girlfriend when she's in the mood?!

PS: I've always thought it was women who had problems doing it often!

Answer 1

@woman 2  hours not days

Sometimes guys can't be bothered, sometimes i'd rather just sleep lol

Answer 2

he's a sick man. maybe on the Down-low ... normal men love s*x and need it every-single-day .....

Answer 3

haha I wish I was him! It is hard to find a women who wants to have more s*x than a man.

But maybe it is just that he is tired, or maybe he doesn't want s*x to be like a daily thing; and as we all know, daily things can eventually get boring, no matter how much fun they are. I know you heard this a lot, but just try talking to him about it and see how he feels about s*x constantly.

Answer 4

It is very odd...but I would only be worried if this was a change in behavior.  If he's always been like this, then it's his drive.  

Hopefully he's affectionate towards you in other ways.  If not, this isn't the guy for you.

Answer 5

My fiancé is the same way. I could have s*x all day every day, but he gets tired. I've also been with my guy for over 4 years, and he just is too tired (I work days and he works midnights.... so we're on opposite schedules.) When we first started having s*x it was 2-3 times a day every day, but over the years it has fizzled out.... when we were living together we averaged about once a week (even though I wanted it at least once a day) now that we are living apart until we're married it happens about once a month if I'm lucky.

Don't worry, some of us women are just more sexual than others... don't worry so much about the quantity of s*x as much as the quality, that's what I had to learn.

Hope this helped!

Answer 6

its a bit weird fro a man to say no especially when its offered on a plate to him, could he be seeing sumone else or maybe he just doesnt fancy you anymore.

Answer 7

Honestly..my x-husband never say no to me..I'm usually the one who actually say that..but in your case..it's either..he's seeing other woman or he's the kind of man who's turning to be frigid..or it could be also that he needs foreplay to turn him on..if all you've tried didn't work for him..then..think of something more romantic..and if still you didn't turn him on..then talk to him about it..and ask him exactly what he wants..:)

Answer 8

Speaking from experience with my husband (together for 6, married for 4), there's nothing wrong with him.  Just because a guy doesn't want s*x all the time doesn't mean he's abnormal.  I had a very similar situation though.  I wanted it all the time and he basically didn't.  We would go rarely for a couple weeks sometimes, then a lot for a while, etc.  I noticed that there was a pattern that coincided with him being in college.  During the school year he wanted s*x a lot less, but when he got out of school he was always the one initiating it first. Maybe your bf is just going through some stress at work.

Have you tried getting it on in the morning before work?  Surprise him before he goes and see if that works.

Answer 9

Tell him how you feel and that you want to talk about it. Make it a casual and calm approach. Don't make him feel threatened.

The more you guys can discuss this the better. Try having a few drinks first (if you drink) to take the edge off. Most people are brought up to think s*x is taboo. So being comfortable is the best approach.

Is it normal for a guy to say no? Yes. When does he say no. Think about the details. Right after work? Is there romance in your relationship or just s*x? Trust me, men need romance too. We just work at it differently.

To sum it up. Talk about it. Make it work.

Answer 10

dats one lucky fellaw ,,,you wouldn't have that with muah...any single sistas?

Answer 11

Your boyfriend obviously has lost desire for s*x simply because your not turning him on anymore.

Guys eat the first fish they catch and find out later they want Trout now.

Do you understand that?

Sometimes a guy jumps on the first good thing and then learns that he will never do any better sexually with you and that means your overbearing for him. Your more than he wants to handle because his efforts are not giving him the call he wants...it's more better for him to let you go and find a mate that will be his perfect complexion in sexual appetite otherwise, your relationship will remain stagnant and trust me on this; I am a Man and know what I'm talking about here...once you started to notice his sexual appetite for you began to decline that was the sign for you that it was over. My guess is that this problem began shortly into your relationship 4 years ago and your just now getting enough to handle much less deal with. It will only get worse and if you stay in this relationship because  it's the "I love you, I don't want to hurt you, and the list goes on and, that is futile.

That is like hand feeding  the snake with the mouse.

That is like touching a wasp nest with your hands thinking they won't sting you.

If you choose to stay ...that is like going fishing with no bait.

That's like baking a cake at 475o (it burns)

The choice is yours my friend...now choose!

Answer 12

wow...he works an entire EIGHT hour shift??? what is he....70???

Answer 13

Maybe he is g*y and doesn't realize it, maybe he is sick, and needs a doctor, maybe you just don't look good in s**y lingerie, the reason could be many, "tired" is no excuse to not have s*x with your partner.

Answer 14

Some men want s*x all the time and some men very infrequently; the same goes for women.  When surveys are done 3 x's per week seems to be the average; meaning that all the once per month people balance out with the 14 times per week people.

You need to have an honest and non emotional discussion with him about your needs and wants verses his needs and wants.  You could also try therapy if he is willing.

Answer 15

Usually males do not have this kind of problems, but he works a lot and he might have any other health problem or he just got another partner?

Answer 16

Yes this is normal. don't pressure him cause he will end up saying no more often. This has nothing to do with you so don't think that. he just isn't in the mood. Some guys are just like that.

I personally don't like it . it makes me feel weird. But that's life

Answer 17

whats normal? you should ask him straight out if there is a problem. but be prepared for the answer.