Gym problems?

Question

My daughter has become good friends w/ a girl who has ds. they were in the same gym class together and she was able to help her, because the teachers wouldn't. W/ new semester my daughters schedual changed and they weren't in the same gym class. The other day the little girl came crying to her asking her to come to her gym class, she was very upse because none would help her and the kids were mean. We called the school to look into the gym class. Should we transfer back in?

Answer 1

i have to agree with Georgie .

because what she says makes sense

Answer 2

I think you have done a fabulous job raising your daughter to be a caring person. Your daughter is not required to transfer back into the class, but if she wants to, it would be a wonderful opportunity for both girls.

Teachers often miss bullying, because the bullies wait until the teacher is not looking before acting. But fellow students see and hear what is going on. Your daughter can help this girl learn to advocate for herself. And others will see your daughter as a good role model and perhaps befriend this girl as well.

Answer 3

So, I guess this other girl will be responsible for your daughter the rest of her life!

If the teachers are not doing their job, that's a different issue!

Home school her then!  That other girl is not responsible for protecting your daughter from the "mean kids" and "helping her".

Answer 4

Wow we need more young people like your daughter, who will look past a persons disability, and be prepared to support and help others less fortunate.

Did the school change her schedule or was it due to your daughters and the other girls choice of subjects?

This maybe why the are not in the same gym class.  

The school and their teachers have a responibility to all students disabled or not, to prevent and stop any forms of bullying and abuse, as well as support students when in the class room, if they can't then they should seek advice and support for the students.

Are you friendly with this girls parents, have you spoken to them? Maybe you both (parents with the girls being present) need to front the school with these concerns. I would also speak to the school counselor, about the role your daughter has being playing in providing support and friendship.

The bottom line is the choice is your daughters, and it does not affect her class subjects, or her future choices.  And if they are able to change her back to the same gym class with out mucking up their other classes.

Your daughter may become resentful if she continues to play the support person and advocate, while she should commended and encouraged to support others, she should also be encouraged to actively makes her choices without feeling she has to hold back because of her friend/s.

I am sorry I could not be of more help

Answer 5

Your daughter ( and you) are obviously sweet and caring people. The world could use more people like you and your daughter.

Obviously this is causing your daughter some stress worrying about this poor child. If it is not going to be too much of an imposition for her to change I would say change. Your daughter had a tremendous impact on this child and that can be a very positive thing for both of them.

It is disgraceful that others are mean and the teacher has not taken care of this. Some teachers prefer to turn the other cheek and that is unacceptable. Maybe you could contact the principal and tell her/him your concerns and they can find someone as caring as your daughter to shadow her. Good luck and God bless you both.

Answer 6

first of all if this other girl has a problem for any reason, the teachers should be helping her, not another student. but that is an awesome thing your daughter is doing. more power to her for being a great person. the choice should be your daughters to transfer, if she wants to be there for her, then by all means let her. also i would be talking to the administration to make it known that your daughter is putting forth more effort to help another student than the teacher is. that is not only unfair to your daughter (although its great that she can be there for someone and i am  sure it makes her feel good) but it isn unfair to the other girl because it shows she isnt being given what she needs, and it isnt fair that any other student that has to deal with this class and teacher who needs help isnt going to get it because there isnt always going to be a wonderful person willing to help those in need. so i would contact the school. and if your daughter wants to, i would let her.