HAD A BABY 7 WEEKS AGO, MY HUSBAND DOESNT WANT BE INTAMATE. VERY DISTANT AND COLD. AM I DOING SOMTHING WRONG!!

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HAD A BABY 7 WEEKS AGO, MY HUSBAND DOESNT WANT BE INTAMATE. VERY DISTANT AND COLD. AM I DOING SOMTHING WRONG!!

Answer 1

wow, 7 weeks after birth, I didnt want anything to do with any baby-making parts!! lol anyway he's probably jsut adjusting to being a dad. why dont you talk to him

Answer 2

Yes. You're yelling and that's wrong.

None of us is your husband. We can't answer this question. You need to talk to him. But I can assure you you aren't doing anything wrong.

Answer 3

I have thew same thing going on - he says he is just adjusting to life with a new person in the house.  Give it time and be patient - I know it is hard!

Answer 4

LOL

No. Did he by chance witness the whole thing?!? That freaked my husband out - he figured I'd be stretched to oblivion forever after that - but us women are resilient and bounce back fast!!

Give him some time and be grateful - cause he won't leave you alone once he realizes he can "get it" again

LOL

Answer 5

I totally emphathise with how your feeling=( The only advice I have is to calm down, take a deep breath and try to talk to him. From my expierance my husband COMPLETELY shuts down when I talk to him in an emotional or confrontational manner... Maybe get grandma to baby sit for the evening, go out to dinner, and try to seduce him. It's all about getting in the right mood.Having a new little one completely changes the dianamic of the household. Especially if you're nursing, we as women have a tendency to exclude our husbands and then expct them to read our minds and be completely sympathetic to our needs. Go out for the evening so that you BOTH can remember that you're husband and wife, not just Mommy and Daddy. Oh, if you decide to talk about it, save it for after you're intimate, bringing it up in the middle of dinner probley won't go over well. Good luck =)

Answer 6

must be your first? its maybe a big shock for the lad give it time lol

Answer 7

I'm sure your not doing anything wrong, give him time. When you feel ready to be intimate again don't rush him,try to set the mood and tell him if he's not ready yet you would settel for some kissing and cuddling,you never know where it will lead to.......

Good luck

Answer 8

he is probably just adjusting to parenthood. give him some time. i have heard of some men being afraid they will hurt you. talk to him and let him know your feelings and ask him to share his feelings with you as well. good luck!!!

Answer 9

well your not the only one thats had a baby! speak to him! who knows whats wrong... my other half said he wasnt ready cos he just saw a baby come out of me, plus i was hormonaly horrid to him and didnt even realise how bad i was its probably a mixture of all sorts of things like this!

Answer 10

Your hole is huge and just delivered a bloody, smelly baby.  Why would he want to stick anything in there?