HATERED AFTER s*x ?!?!?

Question

there's that girl whom i met in a trip once ,,she got attracted o me she took my number and my yahoo..i thought she wanted us to be friends..but then she kept calling me everyday and tells me indirectly that she loves me nd i ignored her.. she stayed like this for abt 4 months then she told many ppl to tell me and she was like always in my way wherever i go ..jus like glue..everyday phoneclls i blocked her on yahoo.. and on facebook and she kept on sticking to me..my friend told me to ask her out cz she's pretty..and i did ..we went to movies and made out then decided to go to my place... we had s*x but when she left i felt like i was going o puke..and everytime i see her or tlk to her i feel like i want to vomit...i hated her and ever since we made love she got more into me!!! i told her mny time to **** off but never understood/... i even told her that im leaving the country...dunno what to do...

Answer 1

Why did you have s*x with her???  

It was obvious from the way she was acting that she really liked you - now by going out with her & having s*x with her you've used her with complete disregard for her feelings.  It's normal for girls to get more attached to a guy after sleeping with him.

What you need to do is tell her, or write her a letter (get someone to help you if you need to) explaining that you're sorry, she's a great girl, but you just feel that you're not right for each other.  Apologise for hurting her feelings, and say something like you know she'll find herself a great guy soon.  

Be NICE and GENTLE, and whatever you do DON'T mention that you feel like vomiting when you see her, or that you feel like you hate her.  She sounds pretty insecure so being nasty won't do much for her self confidence.

It sounds to me like you're not grown up enough to be having s*x.  It's not just about the physical side of it - there are all sorts of emotional implactions.  You need to learn to deal with these before playing around with other people's feelings.

Answer 2

Tell her you are into Portuguese boys

Answer 3

Make her wear a bag on her head.

Answer 4

Write her a letter explaining everything that you are feeling. Don't tell her to **** off after you had s*x with her as that is just sending mixed messages.

Start the letter off by explaining how you know that she likes you but you're sorry for leading her on and then explain how you really feel. Ask her POLITELY to leave you alone and describe to her things in your perspective. Make sure it ends on good terms but also make sure it is CLEAR what you are asking of her.

If this doesn't work, tell the police! She's a stalker!

Hehe.

Good luck darl.

xx

Answer 5

stop using women as mere s*x objects

Answer 6

well if a guy asked me out and we slept together i would definitely think that he was into me maybe u led her on and if u didn't like her u shouldn't of done it. it would only make it worst but did u try telling her straight up that u didn't have feelings for her? if not u should try that should get the point across and after that apologize cuz that was kinda cruel  

Answer 7

You shouldn't have led her on. What do you expect her to be like? You basically tricked her into bed.

Answer 8

Explain everything clearly and truthfully to her. Hold your hatred and anger and be cool.

But then again, why do you hate her anyway, because she kept approaching you? Do you have anyone else in your mind? Or are you not ready in any relationships? Hatred is a quite extreme emotion (your condition is even more extreme with all that vomiting stuff), and I don't think ordinary reasons like what I'd stated above are capable of triggering such extreme negative reaction, unless you have a problem. Therefore see a psychologist. Ask why your are so hateful and angry.  

Answer 9

Stop and think about this...

You blocked her, didn't like her following you around and calling constantly, you didn't like her... but asked her out and slept with her.

How did you expect her to react? She thought you were interested in her. As for telling her to F off... you should be ashamed of yourself.

This is your own fault ... you should not have slept with her. The blame is on you, not her.

Geesh... get a grip and grow up.