HE TOOK ANOTHER break.help?

Question

i am very insecure with mood problems and my bf of 6 yrs and i just stayed in most nights watching dvd's.excitement went for us.then he started taking breaks.he wasn't cheating as we were in contact all the time.i call him nearly every 10 mins of the day.i spied on him at work when his cell was off and he was with male colleagues!!but he was geetting all that partying out of his system. he came back 6 weeks, and i found i was pregnant,a nd he is off again.he still returns my calls and says he will meet me tomorrow night, but does not want to go back.i sit and call and beg him.one minute he is nasty,next he seems like he is coming around till i keep pleading with him again. he says he just needs some 'peace'.what does this sound like??

Answer 1

Sweetheart...I hate to hear you go through this. First off, you start out by blaming yourself. Everyone has problems with something and it doesnt give an excuse for being treated like this. ALthough, you mite be insecure it seems like you he made you that way or you let him....why do you keep doing these breaks....it doesnt make sense and it not getting you anywhere hun. Trust me just cuz he answers his phone does not mean he isnt seeing someone else. I kno this from personal experience. Congrats on the baby, but I will tell you now. Look at taking him for child support and start thinking like a single mom. He is no close to marrying you or even being in a serious relationship with you than before. He needs "peace"? SOunds like he wants his cake and eat it too. He wants to be single...let  him be. Stop calling/texting and start worry about your child.

It sounds like he wants  to be single and selfish.  

Answer 2

if you were going through all this why did you end up getting pregnant  - and that is probably why he is staying away...

Answer 3

Why are you calling him every 10 minutes?  Why are you spying on him?  Why did you get pregnant?  Answer those questions truthfully and you would have answered most of your questions.

Answer 4

You call him every 10 min??? You spy on him? Yeah you do have "mood problems" You would have scared me off a long time ago.

Answer 5

You being needy is a huge turn off.  You need to back off, stop calling and following him immediately.  It sounds to me that he is having an affair again.  Give him his space and if he truly still loves you, he will want to come back.  I realize you are pregnant and you probably are very emotional but you need to start thinking of yourself and that baby.  If this is the way he is going to be, you don't need him.  Give him a couple weeks, leave him alone and then have him check in with you.  He needs to do that anyway cuz you are pregnant.  Good luck

Answer 6

It sounds to me like you are way too needy. You said yourself that he seems like he's coming around UNTIL you start pleading with him again. Quit begging and focus on the real issue.. you are going to be a mom! Grow up and quit telling yourself that you need him. Your baby needs you! If you gain the confidence in yourself to live without him then he will see that and things will work out for the best.

Answer 7

It sounds like you've wasted 6 years of your life on a guy who really doesn't give a d**n. Stop looking desperate...focus on your poor, fatherless child. :/

Answer 8

he's scared. he's going to be a daddy. with men they start to act like a child when they know that there man hood of not have to worrie will be gone. give him time. i know its hard for you but dont worrie about him right now. worry about you and the baby. he will come around.

Answer 9

You call him every 10 minutes! I would want a break too.

Answer 10

It's a wonder he still takes your calls. I'd have disappeared long ago.

Answer 11

It sounds as if your relationship is over and he is looking for or has found someone else.

Its a shame you are going to have a baby now because you may be raising it alone

Him meeting you tomorrow night does not sound promising.  It sounds as if he might be getting ready to end it.

I hope he doesn't for your sake but if he does you have to be strong for you and your little one.  

Best of luck