HELP, I need advice about my relationship with my Mother.?

Question

My Mother & I are at war over her "man", after my father died many yrs. ago she moved Dave in & he has never liked me (I was 4 when he moved in) I get called horrible names by him, even in front of her & she acts like she hears nothing...now I'm grown with a family of my own & it's worse, my family & I can't visit her, but his children do...we cannot even go 4 Christmas or B days..he forbids it & she lets him.....a week ago she hurt her leg & asked me 4 help with chores & getting 2 Dr. appointments, when I go to help.. he immediately starts with the name calling & now even makes physical threats towards me & my husband..while my Mother says nothing, when she has 2 go 2 the Dr. she asked me 2 take her & after I've put everything aside & am getting ready to leave, she'll call & say nevermind..Dave's gonna take me. I have talked 2 her all my life about how I feel about his & her treatment of me, she either laughs,hangs up or calls me weak! I want a relationship with her & I try 2 be a good daughter (I'm her only child). But I am at the end of my rope & becomming more & more stressed out. Any advice would be appreciated...Thanks!

Answer 1

I think that you have been a good daughter, yet your mother has not been a equally good mother.  She should never have ever let anyone, especially someone who was to be your "stepfather" disrespect you in anyway...verbal abuse is still abuse.  Unfortunately, you sound like you still hope for your mother to be a positive part of your life when it seems to me a,complete stranger, that she has consistently dropped the ball and not been there for you.  You should just distance yourself from her and her husband and move forward in creating a healthy and loving family with you husband, children(?), and friends.  I wish that she was a more supporting mother to you, but if she can't or won't be then you need to distance your self from her and above all not feel guilty about making a hard choice to bring peace to you life.  Be well.  

Answer 2

WAT A BASTERD HE IS THE WEAK ONE WAT GROWN UP MANN CALL U NAMES THATS SAD