HELP!, i need somebody's HELP through this please?!?!? ?

Question

I have been in a 4 year relationship with this so called "woman of my dreams" , we have a three year old son together and lived together and shared our dreams and hopes together. Back in april, she acted ambivelent and nasty and eventually led a breakup in the end of april. She told she wanted freedom and explore New York City. I was devastated, upset, confused and everything else. She moved out pretty quickly and was just cruel and heartless. After friends have told me that by the speed of her move, you might wanna consider a third party. two weeks later, i went through her t-mobile plan, and i found out she was talking to a japanese guy since March, this guy she has met since Feb. I was upset, i was shocked and could'nt believe it. There were period of time when i was comparing myself to him and why she choose him and i guess she thinks he's more ïnteresting" That's unfair, i am younger and i wanted a stable life for all of us, i could've travel the world and played guitar and dance if i wanted to, but we had a kid. I went through so much pain and it is so unbearable. She showed up with him a couple of weeks ago to pick up my son. How can someone do this and hurt people like this? I've been in my house taking care of my son almost the entire summer. Cried and thought A LOT about what happened. It's as if our relationship never existed for her. My son and me don't deserve this, this is not the way my family should've went. I don't think i'll ever forget this. Now i am just trying to live everyday knowing this, how things have changed. It'll never be the same again :(. Can someone just help with a few words on moving on and advices on how to live life and hope again?

Another thing, what if she gets married to this kid, i would be so heartbroken, or am i just paranoid, i have a feeling she'll do that but why, im so confused. What a nightmare?!

Answer 1

im sorry mabe you should talk

Answer 2

You should just try to talk to her, you can both share your feelings on what went wrong & maybe you can salvage your relationship.

But just in case, chocolate & sugar send happy endomorphines to your brain. It may not be a problem solver but it might dull the pain a little. Go out with your friends, dance, see a movie, anything. Its better then sitting around and moping all day. That just gives you more time to think about it.

Answer 3

First off try to have custody established for your son, and that she can't take him out of the state. If she does marry, then at least you will have your child near. Something must have gone wrong, for her to start looking at different men. You have to ask what you can do to make your sons life a good one.  Maybe you should have asked her to marry you before the child was born and had a commitment with her. She might have felt more secure in the relationship.

Answer 4

I know it hurts now, sweetie, but you just have to accept that this woman was not the best for you. She cheated on you and left you for someone else. You deserve better than her.

Tell her you want to keep your son. Tell her you don't trust this other man and that you want what's best for your son. You NEVER want to put a child in danger.

I know it's hard but you just have to accept that she wasn't the greatest person for you. I know you probably still love her, but I also know you're angry and hurt and depressed. Tell her how you feel. Ask her "Why did you do this to me?" If you get a straight answer from her, at least you'll be able to know why she left you for another man.

Try not to think about her when she's not around. Spend as much time as you can with your son while you know you'll still be able to keep him.

-Dee

Answer 5

first off get custody of your kid, you dont want that little ***** getting him

and just forget about her

seriously, shes a piece of **** who doesnt deserve anything or anyone

its like she has no heart

just do things to keep your mind off of it.

do things with your son

maybe go date again?

dont even worry about her, its not worth it

and its called karma

it will get to her one day

Answer 6

u dont sound that sad... but life has to go on... concentrate on what you had always wanted to do before you started going out with her. that should help.