HELP!! BEST FREIND TROUBLES!! (sorry it's long i need help) ?

Question

Okay well today I was talking to my best friend on the phone about an unrelated-to-this-story issue, and we just got around to talking about people in general and he started saying things like, "If my dad had been around more to put me in sports, then I wouldn't even be friends with you." (because of the "separate groups") and "I could be TOTALLY popular if I wasn't friends with you guys (our group of friends)" So I said "Are you saying we could never be popular?" and he was all "No we could never be popular together, we are too different." And he kept acting like he was doing us a favor by being friends with us and he was too cool for us or something. And after he says all this, he says "but I love you guys though" like that makes everything okay. His definition of popular is that whole TV show definition like, fashion, jocks, mean girls type thing, loved by all, you-know-you-want-to-be-me stuff. And that's just not me, but I love to make new friends so I was saying how this girl seems mean and I don't really like her that much. I don't know her that well but what I have seen is NOT good. So I told him that and he said I'm jealous of her because "she's hot and gets lots of guys". I told him that's not why and tried to explain but he just said in this real patronizing tone "It's okay, I know exactly how you feel. I want to be like the beautiful people and get hot girls." This is so unlike him it's scary. So I was talking to my other friend and my mom and my mom suggested I give him a little space and don't talk to him for a while. But I think I should tell him it came out s****. and mean and conceited and if that's how he really feels because if i don't talk to him he'll ask why i'm avoiding him. he's been my bff since 5th grade and i <3 him like a brother and this is soooo unlike him so what should i do help!!!! *thanx*

Answer 1

Call him on it tell him he is being a jerk. What are friends for?

Answer 2

it sounds like you need to sit down with your friend and have a talk about how you feel about what he said.  

Answer 3

Friend? Hmm..

To me.. hes acting like a know it all.. he wants to be popular but he can&#039;t, he thinks your not good enough to hang out with him, he&#039;s sick of being not popular.

Sucks right? :[

Try to throw some mean words back at him and see how he reacts. It may not be a good idea cause you guys might end up fighting.. but if u do start fighting.. whenever u feel like getting over it tell him the way hes been acting and you didnt like it and thats why u became mean to him.

OR.

Tell him the truth, call him on the phone or up in person how hes been acting and its been bugging you. tell him how you really feel. hopefully he&#039;ll respond like &quot;look i didnt mean it that way im really sorry&quot;

Good luck. I&#039;d just tell the truth.. but ur choice.. :]

Answer 4

I think you should listen to your mom and just give him a couple of days to think about it. If he truly loves you guys he will realize what great people you are and apologize, and when he ends up calling you first [you should make sure he makes the innitiation to talk to you first, but if you really need to speak to him go head and call him first, etc.] tell him what you felt about what he said.

Good luck !