HELP! Fiance called off wedding & his Mom wants her jewelry back, but I lost the earrings and bracelet?

Question

I was supposed to be getting married yesterday (Saturday), but fiance sent me an email Thursday morning calling off the wedding. He also said he wasn't sure if he ever wanted to marry me or if we could even get back together.

I called him and he wasn't answering his phone. So I emailed him back. Three days went by and I didn't hear from him. Then, this moring I get an email from him saying that his mother wants back the jewelry she gave me at our engagement party.

I don't think I should have to give it back because it was a gift. Also, I had the necklace appraised and was told it's not real gold and barely worth $40.00. AND I lost the matching earrings and bracelet.

What should I do? If I just send the necklace, MIL will probably be mad.

Answer 1

You dont have to give it back it was a gift and he called it off!

Answer 2

You are under no obligation to return it and you owe no explanation.

Answer 3

Well what a mess. First let me start off by giving my utmost sympathy for you. I'm sure the whole being dumped before the wedding was a shock for you and left you devastated. I'm so sorry.

On one hand, your MIL is quite tacky for requesting a gift back after it was GIVEN to you and your fiance was way more tacky for having dumped you via email. Praise the lord that you didn't marry that clod.

On the other hand, if the jewelry was worthless, what motives could the MIL have for asking it back, you ask. Simple. Perhaps it is truly a family heirloom in the manner you may not think. Perhaps somewhere in the past, your fiance's ancestors were so poor that instead of a real gold jewelry set, all the ancestor could afford was cheap jewelry. They maybe had a happy marriage and that cheap jewelry could be a symbol of thier lasting and happy marriage. You never know. I don't think it's the value of the item moreso than the sentimental value.  It may have been passed down the family for quite some time as a symbol of good luck and prosperity. When you think about it, there's no other reason for the MIL to ask for it back than that.

I would suggest you return the necklace and try to find the earrings. If it's cheap junk, why would you want it anyway? Plus it is a reminder of a marriage that never happened. Just be honest if you cannot find the earrings and promise to keep looking.

Good luck.

Answer 4

It was a gift to you from your ex's mother.  A gift is a gift.  He has shown absolutely no respect for you by calling it off by email.  What a tacky person.  If his mother wants it back then she needs to contact you herself.  But I just wouldn't worry about it.  And if you send it back and she is mad because the other pieces are missing I would just tell her, that you will happily replace them when your parents are reimbursed for the cancelled wedding.

Answer 5

It was a gift. I wouldn't give it back. I would tell the dumba*# that he can give his mommy the money back.

Answer 6

Your ex fiance did not have the respect to call off your wedding face to face or even by phone. His mother is asking for her cheap jewelry back and apparently neither of them have any respect for the loss of money your family is facing or even your feelings.

I would stay on the same course they are on and not worry about what they think. If you don't want to give the jewelry back then don't. If you want to send the only piece you still have then do so and don't worry if they get mad or not that you lost the other pieces.  They are not caring about your feelings. You have no obligation to care about theirs.  

Answer 7

Oh, I would not even worry about it...he called off your wedding via email. If the jewelry was just a gift and not a family heirloom I would so not even stress over it. Who cares...don't even respond.