Believe it or not I am a "newlywed", me and my husband have been married for six months(off and on for about 10yrs.).To make a complicated story simple... Before we got married I cut off all of my guy(and girl)friends that I knew had crushes on me,just to make sure that when we got married everything was "pure". About 4 months ago I found out that he was still keeping in touch with females that he used to mess with. I even read one email where he was flirting with one girl. I did address it and I think that kinda of snapped him into realizing how different and more serious marriage is than dating.after that I started having trust issues;not knowing who he is communicating with literally gets me upset. I also feel "played" b/c I dropped all of my (non-pure)guys friends simply to respect our relationship. On top of that he bothers me b/c he does not know how to articulate his thoughts or ideas. So I find myself getting frustrated before he even finishes his sentance. Plus I had to confront one of his exes b/c even after he asked her to stop calling she would still make situations up to call him.... Another thing is that he is not making as much money as I am used to. So I now have to adjust my spending habits just to buy a new pair of work shoes!!!! Also, we got in a big arguement a few weeks ago and he broke my blackberry(gasp!!!)After that night I have put my emotional walls back up.I don't talk as much,I have kinda turned into a very emotionally detached wife.I can't believe that we allowed ourselves to argue over something so trival(scooting over in bed). To be honest, the main thing is that there is not a day that goes by that I don't think about how ....while I was being so true,dedicated and making sure I was being faithful to him that he was not doing the same.I was so hurt when I found out! Sometimes I wish I can make him feels as hurt and upset and played as I felt/feel.Now it seems like everything that he does bothers me. I know that marriages go thru phases and this is our 1st year.What should I do??How do I get over it?? Please help!!
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