HELP! I always have panic attack when my husband's cell phone is off or not answered.?

Question

I just moved here to New York 2 years ago (I originally from Indonesia). I got married to my husband that's why I moved here. I left everything behind (my family, my best friends, my relatives). I'm the one and only child in my family. My dad passed away couple months before I moved here. My mom is still in Indonesia. I talk to her every day and she comes to visit every year. I don't have anybody here. I have friends, but only co-workers and some online friends, not close friends. I feel homesick so often and I do feel lonely. My problem is, every time I call my husband (when he's at work or he's with friends), and his cell phone's off or not answered, I always get panick attack. I couldn't breathe. It's not like I'm over possessive or think that he's with another woman/having affair, it's not like that. I trust my husband so much. I never thought like that, ever. I just can't explain my feelings when I have panic attack like that. I really really need help because I'm suffering. Is it something wrong with me? What should I do? Your answer will be very appreciated! Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

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Answer 2

You're probably afraid somehting has happened to him seeing as how you din't have much family and he is probably all you've got. Maybe see a therapist or something? Someone like that maybe could help you sort your feelings out. Also, if your husband has friends, you should get out and try to make friends so you'll have a better and bigger support system.

Answer 3

WIth all the changes that have taken place in your life over the last two years....you have become dependent on your husband. He is your security blanket. So when he is unavailable then that is when you go into panic. You have to realize that your panic attacks are self-induced. You can try to become self-reliant by doing more and more things on your own. If that doesn't work then you might need counseling to help get you over this. A couple of sessions might not hurt.

Answer 4

its anxiety and your fear of being abandoned

you should get a therapist and she'll recommend a psychiatrist. your state of mind right now is in need of help right now foreals