HELP !...I don't know what to do !

Question

Okay so there was this one day when my grandmom was over here and they both know that i am struggling with depression and anger issues and my mom and grandmom told me to tell them when ever i was feeling mad or sad...so my mom said something to me that REALLY REALLY hurt me and i told her that she was making me mad/sad and all she said was "so" over and over again this made me feel so hurt that i could not breathe and my side started hurting badly...well while this was going on my grandmom didn't say anything and that also hurt me and i wanted to know what i should do because i just cannot forgive them...ever since then my side has been hurting every time i wake up and when everytime i go to the bathroom...i've been treating them really mean and i feel bad about doing so but i do not want to forgive them for the physical and mental damage they caused...what should i do !?

Answer 1

if your not seeing a professional, go to one soon. You have a lot of pent up emotions that need to come out. If need be, let it all out on your mom and grandma, it will help once everything is out in the open. They may not like it, but they need to know what is going on before they push you to doing something extreme.

Answer 2

I don't know what they said that hurt...maybe you're addicted to drugs and they keep telling you you're an addict or something???

How do I know without more details here?

Answer 3

well, talk to a friend, get counciling, i dont know what they could have said to hurt you so bad. but talk to someone who is in your life and knows them, maybe they will know what to do.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry you are having a hard time.  I too had mother problems when I was younger.  I've been hospitalized twice for depression, but am happy to report that with medication (zoloft) and counseling, I am totally okay.  

It sounds like your mom and grandmom are struggling with their own 'issues' or they are just pretty insensitive.  Unfortunately, most of the time it is not helpful to discuss personal problems with family members.  I would suggest that you look in the yellow pages under "counseling" or "mental health" and find a good counseling center.  Each state has government-backed facilities with reduced hourly rates, if needed.  Education groups are tremendous.  You will learn about coping with disappointments, expressing your anger in healthy ways, and many other topics.  

I hope you will find a trained and caring counselor.  You're worth it!

Answer 5

To start off with you need to take responsibility for your own actions and quit blaming your mom and grandmom. Sure it would be great if they were really supportive but it doesn't sound like it's going to happen. You have to decide for yourself that you will quit being a victim and allowing others to control what happens to you. Talk to a professional and there are drugs out there that can help. My daughter went through a period and was diagnosed as bipolar. She took medicine for awhile, got professional help, took control over herself and eventually got off the meds and having to talk to someone. She's come a long way and we are very proud of her. Good luck

Answer 6

just tell your mom that she hurt your feelings and ask for an apology and tell her not to make a coment again like that again

Answer 7

YOUR ACTING LIKE A  5 YR OLD BRAT .YOU NEED TO GROW UP AND ACT A LIL MATURE.  

Answer 8

you should do a couple of things, you need to cope with this on the short term, and on the long term.  i'm assuming you are a healthy younger individual.

for the short term you need to deal with the stress.  when you are stressed your body produces chemicals that do some amazing things to your body to prepare it for battle, or for fleeing.  when thes chemicals arn't used up, they tear you apart, because they arn't spent.  a regular moderate walk, maybe half an hour will help burn these chemicals up, will make you feel physically better, and will give you time to cool off.  it may sound dumb, but it helps alot, and even if you are active, most people who are active are active in spurts, and this does little to get those chemicals out.

for the long term, you should consider talking to someone about how to control these feelings, alot of times it gets to be a matter of how you look at something, or how you keep things from building up, or even how to release your stress in a positive way.  the sooner you do these things the better off you will be.  i didn't do them fast enough, at 46 i had my first heart attack, let me tell you, controling it early is a much better way to go.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Well talk to you grandmother she really just didn't know how to respond so she didn't and your mom knows you have issues so she understands start by forgiving yourself and take a stool softener to go then everything else is mind over matter

Answer 11

What?

Answer 12

she didnt say anything for no reason you probably did or said someithng

Answer 13

you need to see a professional...a regular Dr and a therapist...now.

Answer 14

What did your mum say? Did you deserve it? Believe it or not, no one is going to treat u like a princess. Your mum is entitled to be in a bad mood, hec, u get to be in a bad mood everyday! We all say things we dont mean, and even if she did mean it, take into account what she said and ask yourself if she had a point. And you hav to learn to fight your own battls, your grandma isnt going to be there forever.

Just forgive thm. My mum held a grudge on her dad for a week and then he died in an accident. What im saying is give your mum and grandmum a break. they love you and theyre trying to support you.

And stop makingout that your mum is picking on you. Ifyou were being mean then she wont let you get away with it Cut the victim stuff out. Stop thinking you can get away with everything because your depressed. Just listen to your mum for once.,

Answer 15

Well, you aren't alone with family problems or your emotions.  I was just hurt again for about the millionth time by a family member on the same issue that I've beg and pleaded with them to stop doing to me.  She asked for forgiveness, and I was reluctant to give it to her because I thought she would think it was okay to do the hurt again.  My therapist said to forgive her, but to say, ". . . but it's not okay."  My therapist also said that to feel resentment is like walking around with a pebble in your shoe--the hurt will only get worse.  For your sake, forgive them.

You never know people's motives.  It could be your mom and gram were making an effort, cruel as it might have been, to get your moving out of your funk--we used to call it tough love.  It is our duty as children to honor our parents and our grandparents.  Something relating to the Fourth Commandment says that grandchildren are the crown jewels of grandparents.  Start looking at your life from their perspective.  When we worry about someone we love and don't know how to help them we get frustrated and sometimes do things because we don't know what else to do.

I think your should get over yourself and stop blaming others for your problems.  If you are sick, seek medical attention.   Get up tomorrow morning, take a shower,brush your teeth, put on a cute outfit, a little make up and blow dry your hair.  Clean your room, wash your bedding, vacuum everything, let the sunshine in and if it's not too hot, open the window and tell the bad spirits to get out of there.  Ask mom or Gram or dad for some money and go to a place like the Hair Cuttery and get your hair cut and blow dried.  Go to Wal-Mart and buy a couple of new outfits.  Make it a new day in your life.  Ask if there is anything you can help the family with.  Get on your bike or feet and get out and get some fresh air and sunshine and exercise.  20 minutes a day.  Drink a lot of water, take a multi-vitamin and stop eating junk food, fast food and over processed food.  Focus on eating fruits and vegatables instead of junk.  I wish you the best.  Being depressed and angry only hurts yourself.  Start counting your blessings.  You can't be depressed and count your blessings at the same time.  Get up, get out, get moving.  You may want to ask your parents if you can go to a therapist.  

Answer 16

call some body! they can get in trouble for doing that ,that is called emotional abuse!! Get out of the house do what ever you can to leave for a while or some thing..! OR tell your mom later that it hurt you! and what your feeling and if she tells you so, then go away from your house and spend your time some where else!

Answer 17

tell your mom randomly that you appreciate everything that shes done for you.moms eat that stuff up.say that what you did the other day was wrong and that you hope she forgives you.if she doesn't then just go on.shes your mother.she loves you no matter what.