HELP!! I need a quick way to earn cash to bail my boyfriend out of jail!?

Question

My boyfriend got pulled over for a busted headlight and had some warrants out for his arrest in two different counties. They werent for anything serious... they are actually quite stupid. But all together his bond is going to cost me about $1000 and I dont have that kind of money, i am a single mother. He is a great person and I dont know where I would be without him... he doesnt deserve to sit in jail with all of those aweful people. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions? Please, i am so lost without him!!

Answer 1

I would do nothingfor him, he got himself into this mess, let him get himself out of it.

Answer 2

You got to use what you got, to get what you want.

Answer 3

why would you want to help a lowlife looser ??go and look for a real man

Answer 4

Oh please.

He IS one of "those people."

Look, he made the chocies he did and is now paying the consequences. If he was so great, why didn't he make sure to stay out of trouble.

If he needs to be bailed out, hit his parents up for money. If they refuse, then take it as a sign that if his parents refuse, they must know something you don't.

Leave his behind there. He should be man enough to get himself out of this mess.

Answer 5

When's his court date? If it's in a few days, let him stay there, sorry but getting out a few days early is not worth going broke over.

If he'll be in a while, see a bailbondsman.

(great person... btw? warrants in different counties? he sounds just dreamy) sorry but you have kid(s), they need to come before some "guy". yeah yeah yeah, people make mistakes, but "some warrants in different counties", doesn't sound like a mistake to me. put your kids first, give them the life they deserve. drop this creep.....

k, lecture's done.

good luck.

Answer 6

This is not the type of role model you want for your kids.  Bad checks and a "fee" he didn't know about.  Are you making excuses for him?  Guys like this love woman who believe they are the victim.  These guys never take responsibility for their actions.  looking at what you wrote, you believe him too. it's the ex's fault and the system.  Not him.

For $1K, leave him there.  That is a lot of money to come up with.  You might be surprised where you would be without him.  But food for your kids, put gas in your car and pay your rent.

Answer 7

Don't bail him out. It's a waste of money and he'll get out eventually.

Answer 8

All you have to put up is 100 dollars they only ask for at least 10% of the bail amount.

And get a small loan or borrow money from someone and if he had warrants out for his arrest than i wouldnt bother giving up any money for him because he obviously doesnt handle his problems

Answer 9

I'm so sorry that your so lost with out him.

Really there isn't much that you can do for him, when you yours self stated that you don't have that kind of money.  He may have to serve time since there isn't any money to be had to bail him out.    

You do have a child/children to think about, they are your first priority.  I'm sorry if what I'm saying sounds mean to you, I don't mean for it to.  But you have to be honest with both your self as well as with him, if you don't have the money then you don't have it.

While he may be a really nice guy, he has placed him self into this mess by not taking care of his responsibilities when he could have done so.  None of this would have happened to him if he had cleared up the debts that he had.  Clearly he wasn't worried about the debts before.  Let him figure out what he is going to do, do not involve your self in his debts, since you do not have the money to do so any way.

It shouldn't have to cost you any thing, its not your debt to worry about.  Concentrate on taking care of your child/children since they and only they should be your concerns.  So that any money you have will go to continuing to take care of your children.

When we as people  make a mess in our life it is some thing that we must learn to clean up for our selves, that helps us be even better people.  

You also say that he doesn't need to be in there with those aweful people.  What makes you think that all of those people are any worse than he is, that they are so aweful.  Any one can make a mistake in life and then get caught, that doesn't make them aweful.   That just means that they made a mistake.  

Let him figure it out for him self, it will make him a better man if he has to do that for him self.  He will feel more like a man if he is allowed to fix this for him self.  Also if he's any kind of a boyfriend he will understand that its not your concern to deal with.  He won't expect you to figure out where to get the money for his bail, because he knows that you are a single parent.  You have a child/children to think of, and they are your first priority.

I wish you all the best.  No matter what happens, he won't be in there for ever.  Let him man up and do what ever he has to do to fix if for him self.  He had to know what would happen if he didn't take care of the fines, he had to know that he'd end up going to jail if he didn't.  I'm thinking that he was counting on not getting caught so that he wouldn't have to worry about paying the fines.

BTW:  If his ex wrote the bad check they would be going after her and not him, since she wrote the check.

Answer 10

Don't waste $1,000 on his bail. You're a single mother, you could use that money. Its his own fault he's in jail, he'll be okay. It isn't prison, or anything. Whatever you do, don't put yourself in danger to try and come up with that money. If you can come up with an idea, such as contacting a friend of his who might have the money, go for it, but don't do anything stupid.

Answer 11

how many times have we ALL heard this ......"he is a good person and didn't do it."

Answer 12

Where do you live? You might want to contact a bail bondsman. They would be your best option.

Answer 13

Yeah, he's a keeper!  Sell your kids, sell drugs, sell all of your family heirlooms.  The system keeps s******g him, poor guy.  You need to help him.  Protect him.  He'll always be the poor guy who is so misunderstood and no one understands.

Answer 14

If they were for minor offenses he probably WON'T be there long anyways. In my HONEST opinion you should NOT bail him out.

Let him sit in jail for a couple of weeks. This will allow him a greater opportunity to sit and think about how he ended up in jail to begin with. This will allow him a chance to sit and think about how terrible his life might be without you. He got there for a good reason....and if he had used any common sense to begin with, he would have resolved the problems with the warrants and the headlights BEFORE the cops were forced to get involved. I'm not a cop, and I Do feel sorry for him.....SORRY that he did not care enough about himself or YOU to prevent these things froim happening.

Inmy opinion he could use a few weeks of "Tough Love".After all.he isn't gonna change until he is FORCED to.

Let this be a test of his love for you. If he DUMPS you, so be it. You probably deserved a better man anyway. If he hugs you tight and tells you he is sorry, and won't do it again....he might be a KEEPER.

Good Luck

Answer 15

He's not a great guy he's in jail because he is wanted in 2 counties and stupid enough to be driving around with headlights out!! Your obviously a compassionate and kind person and unfortunately the kind losers want to hang around . Let him stay in jail. Move on.

Answer 16

is he contributing to your household? if not, then why waste money that you don't have on this guy? he's irresponsible. if he can't afford his own bail, then you shouldn't bother with trying to help him. like he didn't know he had a busted light, anyway. anyway, about the light, if he didn't get it fixed, because he couldn't afford the hundreds of dollars to repair it, i recently had the same problem and went to a salvage/junkyard and paid $25 compared to the hundreds that I would have had to spend. that'll help with the headlight, bc i think he now must get it fixed since he got the ticket.

and, how does he get a warrant out for a check that his ex wrote? did she forge his name? then, i doubt that it would have been that hard to get this proven before it got turned into a warrant. yet more proof that he's irresponsible and cares less about himself than you do.

Answer 17

If the warrants have a total bond amount of 1000 then a bail bonds would only charge you 10% ($100).  If you can bail him out for that, then go for it.  however, if you're saying that you have to pay $1000 out of pocket, then it's not worth it.  you are a single mother and $1000 can go a long way in your home.  you need to keep it where it can be put to good use.  he got himself into a mess that started prior to your relationship, based on the fact that his ex wrote a bad check.  so, you shouldn't feel a need to bail him out of a situation that he got himself into long before you.  

i'm not judging him, sometimes good guys do wind up in jail.  but, the good news is that if his violations are minor, as you say, then he won't sit very long anyway.

good luck!

Answer 18

When his court date comes around he'll be let go, that shouldn't be too far away. He can also be released on his own recognisince which means no money just a promise to appear.

Answer 19

I've always been told that great people take care of all their warrants before they're arrested. Are you sure he's a great person?

Answer 20

Look, my mother always said " i love you guys more than anything, but if you ever get arrested..your behind is staying behind bars"  my brother got arrested and she NEVER bailed him out. Guess what?!?  That was the best thing she could have done. he later thanked her.  Do you really want your daughter to know that she could break the law and not have to pay the consequences? you are a single mom. Money should be for you and your kid.

Answer 21

Yes, he does deserve to be in jail if he broke the law.  He does not pay his way in life.  That is not exactly a great man.  And if he won't pay the law, do you really believe he is going to pay you back?  

In a few months you will be back here asking how to sue him for your money back.

Let him take his lumps and learn his lesson or you will spend your life paying for his mistakes.

Why put yourself in debt for someone who you aren't even married to?  

But if you are determined to throw your money away for a man you are dating, sell your belongings or take out a loan.