I am in a L*****n relationship of 5 years, and I am afraid to initiate s*x. It all goes back to the beginning, she had severe tooth pain problems & infections (bad dentist) and always wanted to sleep. I used to try to initiate back then, but I felt like EVERY TIME she shot me down, then she would get mad because she felt bad that she shot me down. She used to ask me if that was all I thought about. Of course it wasnt, but thats how she perceived it. Now, we live in a new house, and our bedroom is a loft (no door). Our son sleeps in the basement. And, now she wants s*x, but wants me to initiate. Over the past 5 years ive gotten into the habit less and less, until it becomes a problem and she says something. What can I do? What steps can I take to make this better? I do not want to lose her, she is absolutely the love of my life, but I need to fix the way I think. I feel so awkward now when I try to initiate, and it feels strange... It was never like this before, and I want it to go back to the way it was when we had passion in our lives. It is hard with a child in the house, because we cannot just go do it whenever we want, we have to wait until he is asleep. I desperately need some advice before she leaves me and I am devestated... does anyone have any advice or steps I can take to reverse this before it is unfixable?
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