HELP! I suspect my toddler's preschool teacher is physically disciplining him.?

Question

I walked into Children's Court Yard and found my 3 year old son frightened to get up from his class's story time circle even after seeing me enter his room. He frightendly looked at his teacher then back to me again twice before I ordered him up. He seemed to want to cry. He ran over and reached out for me to pick him up. His teacher said that he didn't get his nap out. When I asked him what was wrong, he pointed to a group of puppets on a shelf but first hesitated while looking fearfully at his teacher. The teacher blurted out, " He wanted t o play with those but I told him he could later because It's story time. When we got to our car, I asked my son what happened. He balled up his fist and rammed it into the palm of his other hand then acted as if he had fallen due to the impact . After questioning him several times I gather the teacher may have tried to take something away from him and angrily pushed him away fromof it with her fist. However, I can't prove it. What should I do?

Answer 1

ooh child! I'm mad a heck for you! I would talk to whomever runs the place and file a complaint. And if it happens again.... Hit her in the head and run away....

Answer 2

Your right a three year old cannot prove details. His actions will tell you everything. He is to young to "plot" against the teacher. I would advise you to talk to other parents that you see. Not all of them just a few. They may have similar instances. You need to notify the school too.

Also if it happens again you should make a police report right away, because your son may forget the next day w/ happened. Get the police report when it is fresh on his mind. Parents always know what is best so just follow your natural instinct.  Maybe try to change teachers as well. You should never feel uncomfortable leaving your child with someone you think you can trust.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Pushed him away from it with her fist......

Ehh, don't think it happened like that, but if this is very out of the ordinary, it's obvious that SOMETHING happened with your son. Ask him about it further (but wait a while- he's scared and in a state in which he may think less than clearly), and if it seems credible, take it up with her or her boss etc.

Answer 4

ohh i so dont know where to tell you to start but you MUST get to the bottom of this and i would NOT send him back there. you cannot accuse someone if you do not know for sure so i wouldnt make a scene just yet. but i think the teacher needs questioned. first take your child to the doc and ask them they could have him go to a child psychologist and they can figure it out. just as someone would do if you think your child has been molested. good luck

Answer 5

You should go to the school district. Do you have any back ground about this teacher at all? Some thing needs to be done. I had a teacher like that, and my mom made a big fuss. After all of that, she wasn't allowed to talk to me, or be around me. Later on, they found out she wasn't a good teacher after all, and she is no longer allowed to be one. But because no one looked at her history, no one had a clue about the things that went on.

Do something for him!!! Its going to be SO hard to get him to go through school when he doesn't like the teachers.

Answer 6

Everyone else is saying they think the teacher may have hit something too. I'm thinking about when my kids get really mad at one of us (hubby or I) and goes and runs to the other, then they act scared when the person they ran from comes back around.

She could be hurting your kid, and it doesn't hurt to ask her first and foremost. You wouldn't want someone sneaking behind your back, first. Second, if she is, she might be freaked out and stop. Or, she could be sad/angry about the accusation and innocent.

If the incident still happens, go to the person in charge of the preschool. Make SURE! you make a little journal of incidents, JUST IN CASE! Mark the date, time, what happened - everything you remembered. If there are bruises, take pics.

I think she just disciplined him, not in the way you're thinking, and he was naturally afraid to offend her. How does he react when you place him in time out, or something similar, and people try to bug him or get his attention.

Me? I get upset with my kids. Its their "responsibility" to stay in time out. So, I'd expect and assume they'd react the same way with someone who was watching over them for me.

Maybe what she said is what happened, and she felt like c**p cuz he put up a big stink.

(I've been here. Watching my four nieces and nephews.) If they did something crazy, I'd tell their mom because I felt like I did something wrong, even though I know I didn't. Its hard, as a parent, you know how another parent feels when they're child gets freightened or scared over something, even though you know you did the right thing. You get angry and start pointing fingers. You want to protect your "baby".

So, anyway, that's what I'd do:  teacher, then whoever's in charge, from there, I'd log a complaint with the people that license them and start talking to all the media outlets in your area, so people know.

Best wishes. God bless.