HELP I think I'm a pathological liar...?

Question

I know I lie when I shouldn't, I know I have self esteem issues, I know I lie to friends and make them believe stuff that isn't even true and I end up believing it myself and thinking/feeling that it really happened. I came across the term "pathological liar" and read up about it and it feels like that's what I am... Everything that was there is true about me, is this bad? What do I do?? Should I go to see my GP, I don't wanna be like this :(

This passage in particular sparked my fears, it's soooo true!!

((It is very hard to tell when one is a pathological liar. Some people just are liars and lie to lie because they can and they don't care about getting caught and aware that you know they have lied. These people care not about lying, it's no big deal. It's like "ok, so what? I lied". The pathological liar on the other hand, IS aware that they are lying BUT will go to extremes to make you believe that they are truthful. They appear to believe their own lies BUT in truth, they know their lies are just that, lies. But because their efforts are constantly backing up their lies, it appears to us that they actually believe their lies, when we eventually do find out about them and then we tend to feel sorry for these people. Then they have an excuse, "I am sick, I don't know why I lie, I believed what I was saying etc." The only truth was the fact that they don't know why they lie. Other than that it's c**p. It is true that most of them have an extremely low sense of self worth and are continuously trying to make themselves feel better about THEMSELVES and this is one reason they lie. It is about them but the lies are not always set up with the purpose to hurt some one else; it's that these people feel so low about themselves they need to create ANYTHING different from the ugly reality they feel about themselves so they lie about even the most tiniest little thing. The people closest to them get sucked into these lies which sometimes start as something very trivial and then turn into something that can turn everyone involved worlds upside down and inside out.))

Please help, thanks God bless! xx

Answer 1

You have been honest enough to see there is a problem and to open your heart up, admittedly to complete strangers.

The problem you have, as with any addiction, is trusting yourself.  Can you really 'wean yourself off' the lies and deal with the truth or do you need the support of someone else who understands?  Going for the first option is really difficult and to be honest may lead to alot of isolation, especially if you plan on sticking around the friends and family whom the lies have affected.  The second option of counselling, etc is great, but again is difficult as it involves being honest with someone who can directly affect your life, for want of a better phrase, laying yourself bare.

Either way involves alot of discomfort as you face up to the consequences, not only for, but others around you of the lies.  You have to do this and I would implore you to do it as soon as you can.  Don't let this destroy as today is a new day, yesterday is gone and tomorrow is yours to shape.  Come to terms with it and become a stronger person for it.  

Answer 2

And I am to believe this?

Answer 3

how do we know that this question isnt a lie?

Answer 4

LOAD A BOLLOCKS U LIAR

Answer 5

See your gp and get him to refer you for counselling or a psychiatrist- maybe the counsellor can get to the root of the problem.  There has to be a reason why you do this.

Answer 6

Ugh, I'm a total pathological liar...

I mean i lie/exaggerate the littlest things, and everyone knows.

Eg: Today i was working at Mc Donalds, and this customer gave me a dirty look. I told everyone that she called me a dirty mexican. I thought they would all believe me, i don't even know why i said it. It just kinda happened. Anyways, someone was actually behind me when the person had drove thru. And so they just straight up said that that wasn't what happened, and that they were there.

"And i was just like OHH, did i say that happened in HERE? No, It actually happened when i parked her and ran out her order!"

For some reason i just lie,  and i lie about my lies. In the end it's just a big mess and i want it all to end.

But then i decide, I'm NEVER going to lie again. And then, i decide not to lie about something, but realize people are going to realize that i was lying yesterday, unless i keep up the story. So for some reason i can't stop.

And i dunno if you should go to a doctor or not. I REALLY want to, cause I'm sick of this, and i feel like ****. But i just feel so ashamed, like what am i supposed to say?!?!?

"hey, i lie alot, can u help me?"

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So, i guess i didn't really answer your question so well, but i just wanted to let you know that i can TOTALY relate.

Maybe try kids help phone if your in canada?

You can call them @ 1-888-668-6868

Or visit www.kidshelphone.com

You can post your question on there site, and hopefully they can help you better then i can!!!

Hope i helped!

Any questions just add something to your question.

I'll check back here in 30 mins!

<3

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EDIT:

Alright soory, im only 16 :(

I guess maybe you should talk to an adult friend? Lol, i dunno if adults do that :/

Answer 7

You should go to or call your GP and ask for a referral to a good therapist.  You sound like you are eager to handle your problem, and you have already taken the first step in helping yourself by recognizing you are not satisfied with how you behave.  Good for you and best wishes.  I hope you are able to get everything worked out so you are happy with yourself  :)

Answer 8

cause you're young,all kids lie,part of growing up,insecurities,lack of genuine friends want to be a better person than you are now and so on ,don't worry about it ,the problem will arise when you get caught out and then you  find out who your friends are........

Answer 9

hey chicky, i know a friend who is one. She is seeing a therapist for this