HELP! I want to destroy him?

Question

Karate has always been the place where I could escape now my problem is in my class. For the past 3 years this boy has only made my life h**l . He sexually harassed me and convinced the school I was a L*****n by photoshopping pictures.Every day he did for 3 years.Today he showed up to class. I just wanted to die. I told my instructor that we did not work well together and left it at that. what makes me want to explode is this litttle act which he puts on and pretends to be the sweetest boy ever and just so respectful. HE IS NOT. Well my astma flared up and he offered to help me and just be so nice. I hated being in a position where I needed is help. Just the other day in gym it flared up and he was getting the class to chant rude things at me. The problem is because he is my age they are going to tell him he can go to the adult class. That was my only other sanctuary and knowing him he is going to go to both classes. So he can annoy me the most. I can't wait to spar him. someday!

HEL

Answer 1

Well if you didn't like him in your class, he just entered right?

If you have more experienced, why not challenge him to a sparr?

Don't fight with anger, it's not good. Fight with techniques, and show him that you're not so easy to mess with. Give him a head shot if you can! lol... Good luck

Answer 2

pull him aside talk to him and if that doesnt work then KICK HIS ASSSSS

Answer 3

Your instructor is the problem. The guy's just being a worm. The instructor is supposed to deal with the worms, not you. Flooring him won't help you in the long run. It'll be fun though. Good Luck.

Answer 4

Wow, that sucks. You have my sympathy (sorry if you don't want it). I'm pretty much at a loss here.

I don't think beating on him is going to solve anything. Perhaps the best thing would be to discuss this with someone you trust who's in a position of authority. Perhaps your karate teacher would be a good option. In private, of course. Then he could take measures to ensure you both enjoy your training.

Other than that, I guess I can just wish you luck

Answer 5

Ok do something about it. Don't just go to class each day hoping not to get victimized. Alert people, bring him down. Speak up be heard, don't take no for an answer. And if it warrants it bring the police in.

Harassment shouldn't be tolerated. Back in the day you would just fight, and the loser would get to packin'. But today get some voices on your side!!! If you stand around and do nothing you deserve to be harassed!

Answer 6

Respect your self more, don't let his jokes and photoshops get to you. Tell him he is g*y for obsessing about you. Spar with him and you two will more than likely become Friends. Some friendships start out this way

Answer 7

I would sit down with my instructor and make him aware of all this.  While he may not take any immediate action you are letting him know that there is a history of this individual causing you problems and creating trouble for you.  Most instructors don't want it happening in their class or at their schools as it causes friction and generally is a disruption and distraction to everyone.  I suspect such behavior in the adult class will be very quickly nipped in the bud for this reason and if you act and behave as you should then it will probably fall on him as the cause and your instructor will act on it since he is already aware of it.  Such behavior is not tolerated at most schools for this reason by most decent instructors and if it is then I would certainly be looking for a new instructor and new school.

Not everyone gets along at my school but when some people clash for whatever reason I take them both aside and tell them that the school, classes and anywhere that I am at is neutral territory and if one of them can't behave accordingly then I will make a decision as to who stays and who goes.  This applies to students, parents, brothers and sisters of students all of which I have had similar situations concerning at one time or another in thirty years of teaching martial arts.  This usually resolves such behavior and problems pretty quickly.

Answer 8

spar the c**p out of him and don't ever let up. if he quits the class and keeps bugging you, kick his butt on the streets. your a girl, you'll probably get away with it.

Answer 9

Well you can sue him for defamation and more. Defamation is issuance of false statements about a person that injure his reputation or that deter others from associating with him. Libel and slander are the legal subcategories of defamation. Libel is defamation in print, pictures, or any other visual symbols. A libel plaintiff must generally establish that the alleged libel refers to him or her specifically, that it was published to others (third parties), and that some injury occurred as a result.

That means that if someone said something that's not true about you to another person, you can charge them/sue them. But you need proof for that. Collect the evidence, go to your lawyer, and sue him if you want to. Not only that it would somewhat help with your reputation, it would get him back big time. You can sue him for more but I forgot other terms for this so just ask your lawyer. One of my friend who's a girl had the same problem. After suing the guy, the court ruled that he is no longer allowed to go near within the range of 50 feet or more and cannot talk to her either or else he'll be charged again.

PS: Open up completely to your instructor when you;re with him one on one. If he follows you to make sure you're not going to say anything about him, just tell your instructor that you want to speak with him one on one and make the right excuse to make everybody else around there go away and tell everything that you said here, to him. I doubt he can do anything about it but it's better than nothing(the more people you have on your side and against him, the better).

Answer 10

I agree with the others that say sue the little punk for all the sh** he's caused.  

And I also agree with the person who said to be open with your instructor. If--during the years I was in school-- one of the bullies came into the same karate class I was taking, I'd let the instructor know what kind of person they really are. Not to get them in trouble--but so the instructor would have a better chance of preventing any problems between us while in class.

As for forgiving him and ignoring him--yeah, THAT works (sarcasm). Unfortunately, real life bullies aren't Disney Channel bullies who'll stop harrassing you forever once you have a little chat with them.

Answer 11

Switch schools.  This guy is an ***, your teacher is an *** for allowing it, and it sounds like you don't have a lot of real friends there anyway.

You're in what, 9th grade now?  Find a good Muay Thai school or jujistu school and then come back for a friendly match some day and whoop this kids butt.

Answer 12

I think it's a good idea to let him have it a little bit in sparring.

However, what you really need to do is forgive and ignore him.

When he knows that  you are upset, he will "pour it on" so to speak.  You getting upset is what makes it fun for him.

He is really insecure inside and he picks on you and others to try to make himself feel more important.

Just forgive him.  I know it's hard, but that is the road you should take.  

James

Answer 13

THIS DUDE IS CRUSHING ON YOU

AND HE IS  PROBABLY JUST A LITTLE IMMATURE PATIENCE ARE YOUR BEST FRIEND HAVE YOU TOLD HIM THAT HIS ACTION ARE AFFECTING YOU IN A NEGATIVE MANNER IF THAT DOESN'T WORK

SPARR WITH HIM KICK HIS *** AND HE WILL LET IT GO

Answer 14

Take him to court for defamation. His parents will have to answer for him and they will be embarrassed.

That should make him stop.

Answer 15

I spar that kid and put him in his place. Do you think you could beat him? You could always call him out and say "Look... if I win you have to stop treating me this way, if you win...." and make some sort of bet. Then lay it on him. HARD!

Answer 16

No instructor  I know of will let you "Kick his ***" during a sparring match.  That's not the answer anyway.

Go to the authorities.  Tell your instructor, tell your parents,  tell his parents, tell the police.