HELP!!!!!!!!! Im 23 and am taking care of my fiances 14 yr old sister.?

Question

Their mom has 4 kids with 4 different men, all of them have either been taken away by their fathers or moved out before they were 18.She let us have her when she was 12 because she couldn't take care of her and her dad has no parental rights what s ever. Their mom is crazy. She is not stable and is bi-polar. Talking to her is like talking to an 8 yr old. She doesnt care about anyone but her self yet she claims to EVERYONE that she is the best mom in the world. They used to move from apartment to apartment and school to school wherever her "next" boyfriend lived. The 14yr old is fine now. She has good grades and is happy. She loves me and says she considers me more of a mom than her real mom. I am so sick and tired of her mom having her mood swings and calling her up swearing at her threatening to take her back. Ive told her multiple time that she needs to stop talking to her like that because she is ONLY 14. . How can I get custody or guardianship? My fiance is immune to her crazyness!

Answer 1

File adoption papers, then she can't take her back.

Answer 2

honey you'll have to go to court...and more than likely ull have to talk to her mom!...but u may can turn child services over on her and they would let you have her sence ur raising her!

Answer 3

i'm sure you can get some sort of "absentee mom" legal paperwork that will show that she doesn't and shouldn't have custody. maybe the judge will grant you custody. the girl is old enough to testify in court.

Answer 4

her father can get rights, but you probably could not unless you get both of them to give you custody...  

if social services gets involved they may remove the child from your care and place her in foster care or a group home...

if things are going fine, you have medical insurance for her some how... you really may just want to leave things the way they are....

Answer 5

Funny, I mean not this situation, but just the fact that everyone would support TAKING a child from their bipolar n-mother, but all the adoption lovers see nothing wrong whatsoever with allowing a bipolar psycho to ADOPT a child.

Ahhh yet more of adoption's hypocrisy...

Answer 6

well if you are currently have custudy of the child currently you can most likly take the case to child services.you have a preety good chance of getting custody because the childs mother is unstable and the child is has been with you for 2 years.

good luck

Answer 7

Record everything, phone calls, letters, emails and txt.  Have your fiance's sister right a letter to the courts about how she feels on everything.  Get a lawyer.

Answer 8

Wow. Not a good situation. Here are your options... fiance has to petition court to get full custody, then HE can have her legally. At this very moment, if he is not listed on the birth certificate as the father, then she can have him arrested...and you, for kidnapping. Now, it might all work out in the end, but only after lots of legal bills. Second, who has legal custody. If he does not, then he needs to. Third, you as the care giver can call DFCS in your county and ask (anomalously) about the procedure. If you give them too much information and then say something that they think is wrong, they will take her from you. Now, as 14, she has the right, in most states to suggest to a court where she wants to live. Lastly, if the mom is truly unstable and it can be proven in court, then she can be deemed unfit as a mother and her rights terminated. If the father is not interested in that, it would be very difficult for you to get custody...unless, as the care giver for the last two years, you convince the court to allow you to become guardian. There are so many different avenues this can take. Best bet...get fiance on line with you. It would be easier if you were married, but no need to push his buttons on that. Wish you much luck.

Answer 9

your fiance will have to do that since she is his sister. y'all should call an adoption lawyer and ask them what your options are and they can help you handle this legally.

Answer 10

What you need to do is keep a journal of al these events. Also have the 14 yr old keep a journal. Keep record of all the financial expense you take care of for the child. And then after about 6 months of good record keeping you can then report her abusive behavior to cps and ask foe emergency guardianship. after that it would be a long process in court to prove that she is not a good mother. The court will also offer the mom help and time to get her act together. Since the girl is 14 years old they will be very interested in her opinion and who she wants to stay in.

ML

The mom of the children I adopted was also bi polar. At court she basicaly made it so that there was no way they were going to send them back with her.