HELP ME WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Question

So my boyfriend purposed to me yesterday….

Bought me a CHEAP ring .. I just put 2 and 2 together and came up with the price because I handle his money

BUT the ring is beautiful!!!

I’m talking about real cheap

Should I care?

Should I just not think about the value of the ring and know that he is the one for me??

What to do???

Answer 1

Don't think about the ring value.  If you didn't like it or didn't to wear it that would be another story.  You think it is beautiful, he is in love with you and wants you to marry him, throw value to the wind and enjoy some extra money to spend on yourself in planning for the wedding.  

Answer 2

Wear the ring proudly. He loves you and wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

There are so many girls out there who wait for proposals and would probably gladly take that ring.

You love him and you are lucky enough to find a person you just know is the one for you. Nothing wrong with that...

Answer 3

Is it cheap pricewise or cheap quality wise?

It is not the engagement ring that matters. Sure, we all dream about the perfect proposal and stuff, but that only happens 1 in a million times.

My engagement ring was something he bought on sale from the department store jewelery counter for like $60-it was marked down from $400 for their jewelery sale, but still. He didn't pay the full price, but I don't think he could afford the whole price anyways so I couldn't care less. He still went out of his way to get you a ring. Its not the ring that matters, its the relationship and the thought (i know, that "thought that counts" thing is cheesy because sometimes the gift DOES count, but its just 1 gift in a lifetime of gifts he will give you).

Also, there are many reasons the ring could cost less. Sale? Someone else paid for half? Antique or pawn shop? Now, if he got it from a vending machine and half-assed the proposal and stuff, thats another thing. But remember in that one movie (can't remember which one) where the guy gives the girl a ring that was made out of a blade of grass? The cost shouldn't matter.

Anyways, I don't think the price of the ring should matter. Like I said before, its just ONE gift in a lifetime of gifts he will give you. Just think how he is the one for you. That is the only thing that matters.

If the ring is beautiful, what does it matter how much it costs?

Answer 4

Hey, if you truly love the guy forget about the value of the ring.  Maybe on your first or tenth anniversary you guys could "pop" for a more expensive one.  Don't give it another thought.  Cherish the ring he gave you - who cares if it's cheap.  

Answer 5

Love him and love his devotion to you, what does it matter how much the ring cost does it make him love you more ? I dont think so.

Answer 6

Look on the bright side. Save money on the ring, have more money to spend on the wedding/ bills

It really shouldn't matter the price of the ring. If you're dealing with the money then you're probably aware of the cost of bills etc that the two of you have. I have no idea if the two of you are living together or not. In my case we were living together prior to engagement and I specified I wanted a ring on the more reasonably priced. We have more important things to put money into instead of a ring.

If you really love him the cost of the ring shouldn't matter. But if you feel hurt by this talk to him about it. Be nice and let him know how you feel. If this is something you can't get out of your mind and is bothering you then it's something you need to talk about.

Answer 7

Don't worry about it. As long as you love it, nothing matters. Not peoples opinions, not it's price tag. Don't think about it girl and go on and have a great engagement and marriage!

Answer 8

Wow, well, it depends on how you feel about the ol' love or money spiel.  Do you care him or his money.  

How do you know he didn't get it (or the money for it) from a family member and it's possibly an heirloom?

He could have gotten a cheaper ring so you can have a great big Wedding or Honeymoon.

If you love him, just take the ring and say "who cares how cheap it looks I love this guy and he's the one!"

if you are unsure if he is the one tell him you aren't thinking of Marriage right now.

Answer 9

If you love your ring than the price of the ring should not matter. You also should not be going around and telling everyone that hey my ring cost such and such.

Answer 10

I reply to your question with a question...

Does the price of the engagement ring have anything to do with your intentions and love for one another?

There's your answer. :)

Answer 11

My husband and I just exchanged wedding bands and it was all I needed

Don't worry about the price tag just think of his intentions, especially if you know his finanacial situation and you are aware that he can't do much more.

Answer 12

It depends.  You said yourself it is beautiful which means you must like it, then who cares what the pricetag said. Maybe he got it on clearance or a sale or something.

I told my fiance before he proposed that if he ever bought me a ring that cost more than $500 I would take it back because I don't want him wasting his money on something so expensive I have to insure it.

If your decision to marry him comes down to the value of the ring, I'm sorry but he is not the one for you.  I know that sounds harsh but a piece of jewelry should not define your love, it is meant to symbolize your love and commitment to each other.

If you love him, wear it, enjoy it, show it off and ignore the price tag.

Good luck hun!

EDIT: take this into consideration: if he found you something inexpensive and beautiful he probably shopped around a bit which means he put a lot of consideration into it.

Answer 13

How much money he spent on it isn't as important as him asking you to spend the rest of his life with you.  Don't sweat it.

Answer 14

Didn't come outta a cracker jack box did it? That would be a true definition of CHEAP!

So, he managed to find a CHEAP & BEAUTIFUL ring. I'd say it's the thought that counts. The value of the ring isn't going to get you into a nice house.......and also it's not really that cheap unless it turns your finger different colors.

He loves you, accept his token of love, get married and pleeezzzee ,plleeeezzzeee try and live happily (with a lil stress) ever after. I'm tired of people not taking their vows seriously. Hmmm, maybe the more expensive the ring the shorter the marriage.....sorry, thinkin out loud, my bad. :-> Love your man girl, he got you what he could afford. Congrats!!~

Answer 15

The value of the ring should not matter. It's the value of the relationship that counts.

You even said that you like it, yeah? Don't worry about it. Maybe on your 10th anniversary, you can have it upgraded.

Answer 16

If he's the one for you, the ring doesn't matter a bit. You like it - that's all you need in a ring.

My engagement ring cost £13 (that's about $25-$30), but we've been married for five years and never been happier. Money means nothing if you've got love.

Answer 17

Congratulations!  

I once had a boyfriend who was very cheap with me, while lavishing gifts and toys on his child, so although I'm not excessively materialistic, I don't automatically overlook the price of a ring.  If your fiance is very stingy with you across the board at levels you're uncomfortable with, then you have a problem.  But if he's reasonably generous with you, given what he can afford, then you don't have a problem.  Let's say he's reasonably generous with you all around.  If so, then he did quite well to find a beautiful ring very inexpensively.  There are other areas where the money could be better spent, including a down payment on a house.

Answer 18

If the ring is beautiful... (and you used 3 exclamation points) don't worry about the price of the ring. Think if you were in his position, spending a ton of money for something that isn't even for you. If you care, you care... but remember that you love the ring and what the ring means. In the end, when you two save up some money you can get a better, more expensive ring... but to everyone else, all they are going to care about is how beautiful it is. Congrats on the engagement!