HELP! MY GIRL IS OVER CONTROLLING?

Question

I want to tell her she's hurting our relationship how can i say it to her with out her exploding but i want her to understand NOT HURT HER FEELINGS. we are getting marred Sept 20th

Answer 1

You better get this out in the open before you get married, or I promise you will regret it later.  Part of a good relationship is being able to communicate, and then try to resolve any issues through compromise.  If you two cannot do this before you are marreid, then  you need not get married at all.  Don't worry about hurting her feelings, just tell her this is how you feel and needed to express it before tying the knot.  

Answer 2

are you an idiott,,

if shes controlling dont you think you would have discussed this before you gave her the ringg.

wow dude.

its too late now,,

you got yourself into this one.

Answer 3

Dont listen to all those negative people. You're not an idiot. If you love someone, OF COURSE you want to marry them. If you can't talk to her, your relationship will not work. Communication is the key, she will understand...and if its meant to be, it will be. s***w what everyone else says about it. Tell her that if you're getting married, its a lifelong commitment, and if there is no trust, or communication- it simply will not work out. Easy enough. Good luck!! :)  

Answer 4

I would def tell her before you GET MARRIED..omg. It's prob just going to get worse after the wedding......And thats soon so umm yea pretty much your screwed

Answer 5

LOL, don't run. However, you have to talk to her regarding this BEFORE you get married. You don't want to start your life together with this 'grudge'. Congratulations!

Answer 6

Run...it will get worse.

Answer 7

What is she trying to control? The wedding? Tell her you feel as though you are not a part of any decisions, and you would like her to consider them. Tell her you have feelings too, and great ideas, and that she should give you the time of day. Don't let her boss you around because imagine how she will be AFTER The wedding. Time to speak up now, or forever hold your peace. So to speak.  

Answer 8

is she just this controlling about the wedding or was she like this before? If it's jsut about the wedding fear not. things will go back to normal afterwards. it's likely just the stress of planning the wedding. but when she is CALM one day and nto stressing out is the best time to approach her.  Just calmly an politely explain that you feel like she is starting to get a little controlling and you miss the real her.  Maybe let her know you are a bit worried she is stressing out far too much and want her to relax.  Try a night away, don't talk about the wedding go to a spa or a hotel and get away from EVERYTHING, maybe order some room service and give her a massage (dont do this as a way to tell her, but offer this option to her as a way to relieve the stress and spend some relaxed quality time together)

Good luck

Answer 9

May I make a suggestion? Buy her a present! Specifically, the book, Created to be His Help Meet, by Debi Pearl. You can find it at http://www.ngj.org

If she's a girl worth marrying ( and I suspect she might be! ) she's worth the effort on your part to help her to be a godly wife! Congratulations on your engagement!  

Answer 10

LEAVE HER!!!!!!!!!! SHE IS NOT WORTH IT!!!!!!!

Answer 11

I think you need to sit down quietly with her and tell her how you feel. Let her know you're not trying to hurt her feelings but that marriage is a 2-way street. Good luck.

Answer 12

You need to tell her now before you get married.  Just tell her that she is to controlling and needs to back off a little.