HELP!! My 17 month old will not sleep through the night!!?

Question

So my son usually wakes up at least 3 times during the night screaming bloody murder and does not want his cup to soothe him back to sleep, he does not want me or his dad, he just screams and screams!! We finally end up closing his and our bedroom doors and letting him scream himself to sleep!! I hate it but my husband insists that we do not spoil him by bringing him to bed with us. Any suggestions from mothers who are in the same boat??

Thanks!! :)

Answer 1

First of all  You Sleep....!!!!!!!

Answer 2

I have 3 kids 7,4, and 3 and I agree with your husband.  It is the only way that he will learn to sleep through the night.

Answer 3

He may be having night terrors, night mares...i recommend not bringing him into bed with you, because once you start that its hard to stop, but I woulnd't leave him alone to scream himself to sleep, that can cause a ack of trust and insecurity issues. If he doesn't want anyone to comfort him , I would lay down in his floor and talk to him quietly until he calms down and fell back asleep. I wouldn't be able just to leave him in there by himself, 17 months is hardly old enough to know its not ok.

Answer 4

Stop closing him out. In time he will sleep though the night my son is 2 and he just started to sleep all night it takes time. Let him know u r there and if your husband cant deal with the baby crying put him outside. Just because you show him love doesnt mean your sopiling him.

Answer 5

did u try a night light maybe he's scared sleeping in the dark in his room

Answer 6

I know this may sound silly but my lil girl was the same way. We called the doctor and finally found out she had fluid behind her eardrums that was causing her pain. We finally had to get tubes put in her eardrums to drain the fluid. She has been sleeping thru the night ever since.

Answer 7

I know the feeling...and my son just started getting the hang of it...It killed me too but be persistent about it and eventually he will learn that he has to stay in him room to sleep

Answer 8

bummer mom, maybe hes not getting full enough before bed time. no sweets or anything with caffeine before bed maybe keep him up a Little later at night or a long walk before bath and bed time..  good luck it has to be tough listening to him scream at night

Answer 9

Your husband is right...get him on a schedule. It'll be annoying and it'll hurt, but it will work in the long run.

Answer 10

try giving her/him a warm bottle of milk and let her sleep with you and let him/her listen to lullabies

Answer 11

I am going to have to go with the hubby on this one. We began letting our little ones "cry" themselves to sleep at 6 months- it's one of the hardest things you have to do!!! But your hubby is right, he will learn to soothe himself. In "What to Expect the Toddler years" (I think) it gives more tips- like going in to soothe him and letting him hear your voice after 15 minutes, then waiting another 30 minutes before going in again, then 45, etc.

Answer 12

I think it takes a talented parent to allow their child to scream himself to sleep.

Answer 13

I have a 15 month old that is doing almost the same thing, but she is teething and that is why.

Your husband is very right! Do not put your son in the bed with you. He will get used to it and will want to do that ALL the time. Bad habit to get into.

It could be separation anxiety, and that he's just simply scared in there by himself. The bottom line is letting him cry it out is what you are suppose to do. Going in there over and over is only going to keep him IN that routine and he's going to keep expecting you to come in there for him. So some parents just DONT go in at all and the child becomes used to that fact that mommy or daddy will not be coming in...

Also you could do this one method I read about online. Child starts screaming, go in dont say anything to them, if they are sitting up, lay them back down and cover them up, Walk out. See what happens, if they wake up again, wait 8 mins go back in do the same thing. Leave they wake up again , wait 12 mins. Go longer each time. This can be a long process, but it has worked for 2 of my children. Took about 1-2 weeks with both. It just works them up to the point that IT IS time to sleep, and not time to spend with mommy and daddy.

Hope this helps!

Answer 14

Since your son does not want either you or his dad, I doubt that he is using this as a ploy to sleep with you. Hearing that he is inconsolable, I immediately thought that he could be having night terrors. I believe that night terrors usually begin around 2 years of age, but have begun before the 1st year. I have also heard that it is more common with male children. Please click the link I have provided.

ttp://www.nightterrors.org/

Answer 15

ye, its normal he will grow out of it, dont stress

Answer 16

it called being a baby!!!

Answer 17

He's probably getting his molars in.  My 17 month old son is going through it.  We noticed he was chewing on his fingers a lot and pretty much anything else he can get a hold of.

We use all natural teething drops which work almost instantly, and it's perfectly safe.  I think you can get them at CVS, Walgreens, etc.  Here' s the product link:

http://www.gentlenaturals.com/products/t...

Answer 18

Maybe he is getting to much sleep during the day and or to much sugar. Try keeping him up longer before he goes to bed at night . Or a warm bath with the childrens bubble bath that has lavender in it which is suppose to have a calming affect

Answer 19

I feel or think time will help.  it's probably normal.

Answer 20

Have you considered that he may be having night terrors?

http://www.nightterrors.org/

Answer 21

set a schedule for naps, same time every day and set a schedule for bedtime everynight,,dont let the naps last too long because if he is getting too much sleep during hte day, he may not be tired enough to get a full sleep in at night.

try a night light or allow them to sleep with a favorite blanky or other soft toy

btw, you are not spoiling your sonif you let him sleep with you,,its not a good idea to have an infant in bed with you becasue you could hurt them by rolling over on them, but 17 months is big enough...

you could always bring him to bed with you and when he falls asleep, you could transfer him back into his own crib