HELP! My 3 yr old daughter will not sleep in her room all night! HELP!?

Question

My 3 yr old daughter will not stay in her room at night. She goes in her room at 830 every night and she tells me that she is scared and she wants me. And if i dont stay in there with her and play her game, then she screams and wont stop. We have tried everything we could to get her to fall asleep by herself and stay in her room. Right now i tell her im going to clean the kitchen and come in there when im done but i never go in and she falls asleep but she wakes up around 1 or 2 and comes in our room and sleeps on the floor. Wel tell her to go back to her room and an hour later shes in our floor again and if we lock her out of our room shes sleeping on the other side of the door in the hallway. We have even tried letting her redo her room like a big girl thinking that would help but it didnt. I dont know what to do to make her fall asleep and stay in her room! Please help us!!

Answer 1

Put a potty chair in her room and stick a gate at the door. It's not safe for her to be wandering around the house at night.

Answer 2

Pick a weekend or a vacation and monitor her over the night, forcing her to stay in her room by closing the door for a brief period of time if she behaves unruly. I would recommend that you install a night light and reverse the doorknobs so that she cannot lock herself in. Then warn her that you will close the door if her behavior does not change. Some kids get very agitated in order to make the parents feel bad, check on her periodically and make sure that she is comfortable (clean sweat, change clothes, potty break, etc.). The important thing is to follow up on your word. In my nightly ritual with my 2.5 year old, I assure him that I will keep the night light on and the door open, this reminds him that there are consequences to his actions. This may seem difficult to some but I have 3 great kids that went through this method. If you have older siblings nearby, you may want them to sleep away from the baby's room so that they do not get worried by the tantrums during the training time.

Answer 3

We  went through this for a short while. One night I went into the room with her and sat down beside her and told her to tell me what scared her. We went round the room and moved all the things that could be scary in the dark. I got fairy lights and put them up all round the ceiling and used that as a night light. Every night we read a story and she settled down in no time. It might be that she's scared of the dark, or scared of being alone, but you'll need to talk to her to find out exactly what scares her. What I would say is, if you say you're going to go up, then go up a little while later. She might be lying there waiting and eventually go to sleep not getting the visit. When she does wake in the early hours, her first thought might be that you didn't come up. If you do go up, and she's still awake, read her another story then she might be reassured. Good luck