HELP - My Obese fiance?

Question

I am regretting ever proposing to this woman. She has done nothing but gain weight. Her back fat was bubbling out of her gowns she was trying on. How do I call it off, and CAN I GET MY RING BACK???

If it can come off her sausage finger...

Answer 1

well d*mn u must've proposed to her a long time ago. cuz nobody jus gets fat as h*ll overnight. jus let her know that u are no longer attracted to her b/c of her recent gain and u don't think ur relationship is going to work. idk about getting your ring back. she doesn't legally have to give it back to you b/c u gave it to her as a gift. sorry

Answer 2

Thanks dude that is great!

Answer 3

You sound like an abusive ****** and I can't for the life of me, imagine WHY she'd accept your marriage proposal in the first place.

Answer 4

You need to just call it off,let her have the ring and marry someone  who is anorexic.

Answer 5

You are really mean, obviously you must like big women or maybe love so why complain now? What went wrong? or have you seen someone else your interested in?

Answer 6

The right thing to do would be to tell you that you should stay with her no matter what she looks like, but if you are not attracted to her and want to call it off, then, do it before you get married, not after.  

I don't know the etiquette whether you should keep the ring or not. If you call it off, I believe it is her right to keep the ring, but if you want it back then you can ask her for it back. If you want to end it with her, then tell her straight out.  tell her you  don't think she's the one for you. Try to be as nice as you can be. Don't tell her it has anything to do with her weight. Just break it to her as nicely as you can.  mayber oyu can tell her that you feel ike the two of you have grown apart. Good Luck.  

Answer 7

Wow, please break it off with her, she doesn't deserve this. I mean how much weight did she gain? Was she big when you met her?

Answer 8

Why the h**l would you propose to a fat woman?

Answer 9

You just need to come out and say it, if your not attracted now, its not going to get any better. I think you might be hooped getting the ring back though.

Answer 10

Why don't you just tell her you have some good news and you want to break off the engagement? She'll be relieved and will be able to find a real man then. Hopefully she can take her ring back to the bubble gum machine where you got it and get 25 cents back.  

Answer 11

I am reading between the lines here and this is what I have come up with.  You have found someone else who has flattered you. Sad to say so you are making up all kinds of fat excuses to call off the wedding. It is a sad thing. But, she would be far better off  without you. As for the ring you are the one calling it off she keeps it. More than likely I have a feeling she might throw it at you. She deserves better and I hope she realizes that. Apparently you were attracted to her. And what you thought was love wasn't because you love a person unconditionally. And the vows say in sickness and in health. If you married her and she got sick would you just throw her aside? Perhaps you should give this some deep thought. I am sure you are the most perfect looking person.

Answer 12

You can break it off now without hiring an attorney.  Plus, if she's porking up now, just wait till you knock her up!  

And stop proposing!  You don't want to be married, you just want to get laid!!  Don't apologize for it!

Answer 13

well, honestly

Was'nt she overweight when you met her.

What the heck?

Answer 14

Look past her weight if you really love her. I would suggest polietly asking her to make an effert to lose weight.

Answer 15

"If it can come off her sausage finger..."  

ROFL!  I love clowns ~ I didn't realize the circus was in town till I read this!  

Answer 16

You're doing the right thing.  You clearly shouldn't marry this woman if you know it's not right for you... regardless of the reason.  It's better to end it now than to make her believe in the marriage and have it end in divorce later.  You call it off by telling her that you're calling off the engagement.  Traditionally, if the wedding never takes place the guy gets the ring back.  All you can do is hope that she believes in tradition and gives you the ring back.  If she doesn't, you can always take her to small claims court and sue for it.

Answer 17

you can end it without being so cruel. when you do find someone be sure that you find someone that you love on the inside, looks fade for everyone.  

Answer 18

I understand your frustration, if you don't like her now it will get much worse over time.  She will not lose weight until she is ready, you can attempt to tell her that it bothers you but she will still sneak and eat the things that will make her put on more calories.  I might be negative, but if weight is an issue now it will be an issue after the marriage.  If your not attracted to your wife, then you will likely want to do something else after the marriage.

Why play games, be honest and make your decision.

Answer 19

omg.

how about not being so shallow?

OR marriage counselling..