HELP!!!!! My parents wont even think about how I feel abot their decisions??

Question

My teacher recommended homeschooling to my parents because I am apparently gifted. She said that if I am homeschooled then I would be able to work on my own skill level. Which means I could get a diploma by june(which I can easily accomplish.) The problem is that I will miss going to public school I mean I have been in public school ever since kindergarten to 9th grade(I skipped preschool and I am in my freshmen year in high school). Most people would rather be homeschooled but I am going to miss my friends and I will actually miss lunch time where I can fool around with my friends even though the lunch tastes horrible. So what I am asking is how can I convince my parents to let me stay in public school.

please dont suggest me to tell them how I feel I already tried thAT.

Answer 1

You could get  emancipated.  It takes awhile and you would have to prove that you could provide food, shelter and clothing for yourself.  

I am an adult and have never been in a position that I did not have an authority.  I work in public school and they are my authority.  They tell me that I cannot do drugs , they tell me what time to be there and what time to leave, they tell me what to wear, and they tell me that if I do not want to obey the rules, that I can quit and find another job.  You know, I can get another job and another set of rules.  

Your parents are your authority.  You either do what they tell you to do, or you find another home.

That is blunt, but that's life.  I'm sorry.

Answer 2

tell them that itd be stupid cause u would get further away from ur friends, it would be too awkward, itd be boring, u wouldnt have as many school experiances, etc. stuff like that. like say stuff like how a lot of ur friends are from school and that it would suck if u couldnt c them everyday, how it isnt fair that u dont have ne say and that its ur education not theirs. i guess that might sort of me the "tell them how I feel" part.

http://homeschooling.about.com/od/gettin...

http://www.geocities.com/terriebittner/s...

http://www.sptimes.com/2005/06/26/Worlda...

"Homeschooling is not an easy task" from http://dkcountryarts.com/homeschool.html   (dont look at the other stuff in this site)

http://www.insiderreports.com/department...

these sites gives stuff that might make ur parents at least slightly hesitated for homeschooling. for other sites, just google up "homeschooling not for everyone and therell b a bunch of sites.

neway. good luck with watever happens. protest, but if u dont get wat u want, just b open to it and it might not b 2 bad

Answer 3

take liteeee

Answer 4

Being a homeschool mom, I'm going to give you a different perspective.  

I realize that it's a huge transition, but honestly, the only time you'd miss with your friends *is* at lunch.  You can still do the same things after school and on weekends that you would do in PS.  You really can - I personally know close to a hundred homeschool kids who do :-)

Would you be willing to try it for a semester or so, to see how you really feel about it?  Going into it without knowing is scary...but it may not be what you think it is.  (I know it sure isn't what I thought it was before we started!)  The great thing about homeschooling is, it can be whatever you want it to be - whatever you're willing to make it.  

You can get your work done at your own pace, on your own time, and still have plenty of time left over for extracurriculars and friends.  Actually, you'll probably find that you have *more* time left for your friends, as you'll shorten the time you spend doing homework.  More time, less stress, and being able to move at your own pace are big pluses.

It's really up to your parents - and even though you might not agree with their decisions right off the bat, they really are looking out for you - but you're old enough that you need to be on board too for it to work.  Maybe you can strike a deal with them - you'll try it their way for a semester or a year, and after that time you'll all sit down and evaluate.  During that time, do your best to really try to get the most out of it.  They'll see your responsibility and effort, and they'll be more willing to listen to whatever your point of view is at the time of evaluation.

(My son is highly gifted as well, and I've got to say that he loves the benefits of homeschooling.  There have been times that he has been "on the fence" about it, but overall, he wouldn't give it up.  He loves being able to go at his own pace, design his own projects, and research his interests.  He also loves the tailored curriculum and one-on-one attention and small group interaction that he gets through homeschooling and co op.  His classroom friends ended up actually being jealous of what he "gets" to do for school!)

*Edit - any homeschooling studies you look up are going to tell your parents how far ahead homeschooled kids are, both academically and socially.  By 8th grade, homeschool kids are anywhere from 2-4 years ahead of their classroom counterparts, on average.  They are also highly courted by colleges and universities because of their (statistically) higher emotional maturity level.  Because they don't generally feel the need to "follow the crowd", they tend to be more emotionally prepared for the rigors (and decisions) of college life.  If you're looking for stuff to dissuade your parents with, you won't find it there.  

The socialization thing is a total myth - it's been disproven over and over again.  Socialization means being able to cope with the norms and expectations of society - something that homeschoolers tend to excel at.  (Contrary to popular belief, "socialization" doesn't mean being able to follow the crowd and live according to the pecking order of high school.)

Answer 5

If your teacher recommended it, then she's only thinking of your best interest.  If you spend three more years in high school you're going to be bored out of your mind.  You will most likely "shut down" and give up, which would mean poor grades and that, in turn, will spoil any college admissions.

HS'ing when you're gifted gives you a TON of time to study what YOU want to study.  My son is profoundly gifted and he only spends about 2 hrs a day on formal school work.  The rest of the day he's free to pursue his own interests.  When the PS kids get home in the afternoon, he can go out with them...that is if their homework is done.

There is such great freedom in HS'ing.  You would also be able to do volunteer work, or even work for pay.  You could apprentice in a field you want to study.  You could enter college classes (especially at a community college) or do online college.  The possiblities are endless!

High school is overrated.  I LOVED the first day of college b/c I was finally free from all the frivolous stupidity of high school where everyone is supposed to conform to some impossible standard like an atomatron.

You would be free to see your friends MORE if you HS'ed.  Plus you'd make new friends getting involved with the HS'ing community!

I'd read up on homeschooling, or have your parents do it, at this site:

http://www.hoagiesgifted.org

There's also been a book mentioned here titled "The Teenage Liberation Handbook".

Answer 6

Aww, I'm sorry.

Maybe you  should look at it from your parents point of view.

They want the best for you. They see home schooling as the best option to achieve it so naturally they'll want to pursue this route. Don't worry if you don't get your way though.

You've might of heard the' home schoolers have no friends or social skills' myth. - But trust me it only a myth.

There is after school and week ends to hang out with your friends, also you can and should join classes, sports and activities that you enjoy.

I'm not sure if you can do this at your school but at some non-attendees can eat breakfast and/or lunch there. So that might solve that problem.

Answer 7

OMG I NO HOW U FEEL!!!!! i am homeschooled tho.... its kind of funn being home all day and getting to set ur own schedule. not waking up till 8:30 wen usually id be awake at 6:00..... its hard missing ur friends but i got an AIM and yahoo and we talk like that......... i am in 7th grade i have been to public school sence kindergarden - 6th.... i am getting the chance to go back to reg. school at christmas but i am seriously considering staying.... and to think i only had to b homeschooled bcuz of my bro who always got in trubble... plus you dint have to get out of ur PJ's and u dont have to care how u look during tha day cuz really...... who is gonna c u? plus i get done at 2:00 wen the public schoolers arent done till 3:00....... plus no bus riding! and u can go shopping if ur done early (if someone will take u).... just plz think about it...

yea u miss ur friends but theres alot of really good things about it.

Answer 8

Proper decisions are not made, or based on "feelings", but rather on what is best.

Since you are still a minor your parents have to make decisions that may not always make sense to you, and you will not always agree with them; however parents, because they love their children have to make the decisions that are best for their children, even though these decisions may be hard, and the child may not see the merit of these at the time.

The key here is to trust your parents, and the fact that they have your best interest at heart.

I do not see why you would not be able to be with your friends when they are out of school, since you will have much more time to devote to other activities; friends included when home schooling.

If your friends do not spend time with you anymore simply because you no longer attend the same "school", than are they really your friends?

Friends make the effort to spend time together regardless of where you go to school, or work.

What I suggest is that you look toward, and focus on the future, and with your parents guidance base any decision made today with your future goals in mind; friends come and go, you will make them where ever you are.

Good luck in this new adventure.

Answer 9

Well if they aren't taking your feelings into consideration you might want to do some research online involving studies comparing homeschooled children and those who attend public schools.  I am sure that many studies suggest homeschooling deprives a child from social interaction with their peers which can be detrimental for you when you become an adult and enter the workplace.  Do some research into psychological or sociological studies.