HELP NEEDED PLEASE: Man Telling Girlfriend Empty Promises?

Question

My boyfriend always tells me he is going to do this and that for me etc. and he never does.

for example, i bought a really nice purse and he said "I was going to help pay for it" but he NEVER mentioned that before and i had talked about this for a LONG time. He always says stuff like that to make himself appear like he's sooo nice. -_-

I am planning on mentioning what he said and telling him I was looking for a matching wallet.

Anyways, I am wondering now...he seems to care about me...

but does he secretly feel like he is "settling" for me?

Also, while I am at it...towards the first month of our relationship he would point out other girls and tell me how good they looked/tell me how he liked big b***s ( i dont have those) and he always points out other girls' dress...and i dress REALLY well=( and he points out really trashy girls=( I dress s**y, but classy...and wear very nice materials/designers etc=(

He said he likes how i look now and "doesnt like big b***s" anymore...

Other men sure seem to find me physically attractive and realistically i am 10X more attractive than my boyfriend(to me he is gorgeous though of course)=(

Does my man actually love me?!

Wouldn't he think i'm the most beautiful girl to him? =(

Answer 1

look up the term passive aggressive... where someone uses 'sugar coating' when it really is a back handed dig.  If you confront how something is hurtful, it can always be smoke screened by "but that isn't what I said".

You don't need to be compared to other women. It does not take 1/2 a brain to figure out that as being insulting.. but sometimes they unconsciously do that.  SEEMS to care about you, seems to be the operative word.

Love is not what someone tells you, it is what they SHOW you by actions, and these actions are screaming. Sounds like it really is all about him and what he wants credit for 'planning to do' or being nice to you as he is looking at other girls.

Listen to your instincts.  This is not healthy.  

Answer 2

Empty promises = divorce. PERIOD.

If he's pointing out to you how s**y other women look in immodest clothing, it's just his indirect way of telling you that he would like for you to dress like that for him. As a Muslim woman, I advise you to dress modest when you go abroad infront of strangers, but when you are in the comfort of your own home, you should dress a s**y as possible for your Man since men are aroused by visual stimulation.  

Answer 3

He's in love with him self..  Maybe he has changed his tune now.  But you never tell your girl friend that you like things that you do not have especially b***s.  Your man likes you for what he gets from you and it seems to me like you give him everything...  Boy friends...  real boy friends do what they say they will do. especially  at buying things..  You need to exit this guy...  Good luck..  I do wish you real love.... Grant M in Pennsylvania