HELP QUICK! im15 years old and pregnant!?

Question

ok i just found out im pregnant with this *HOTT* guy named pete (WHICH WAS A BIG MISTAKE) because it was only a one night stand and i told him i was using birth control but really i wasn't i just really wanted to do it with him without thinking about the consequences and then me and him had s*x! i feel so ashamed! my mom doesn't have allot of money. she works and a coney and then she got fired so now me and her are on food stamps and NO i don't have a dad! never knew him! and if your wondering where im getting the internet from im using my friends lap-top! i don't have the money to take care of this baby! neither does my mom! BUT I WANT TO KEEP IT SO BAD! I NEVER WANT TO ABANDON MY CHILD! NEVER! and don't say abortion or I WILL REPORT YOU! do i have any other options? and how am i going to tell my mom?

Answer 1

Well I am sure that you dont need to raise baby of you are still focused on the guy being ''HOT''. First he needs to know and his parents. Your mom and his mom might need to have a chat.

Answer 2

STUPID GIRL GROW UP!!!!!!!

Answer 3

The only options are to keep it and struggle and maybe not give your child the life it really does deserve or adoption i am afraid. My best friend at school got pregnant when she was 14 and she gave it up for adoption but her mother and father no longer speak to her because they are ashamed of her having s*x so young and branded her a s**t....people will also call you names and mock you, but if you are strong enough to handle that then you know what choice to make.

Answer 4

Just let your mom read this question...  

Raising the child is your responsibility.  You should help your mom out... also, tell "*HOTT*" Pete so he can share in the responsibility...  I would also tell him that you lied about birth control...  

Also, consider growing up a little bit...  You have more to think of than yourself now...

Good luck...

Answer 5

live up to your mistake

Answer 6

GROW UP!!

Answer 7

I'm not trying to come down on you, but you have a lot more to think about than reporting someone who advises you to abort. If that's not an option, then fine. Then the other alternatives are to raise your baby, not your mom, or consider an adoption agency that will allow you to have or have no parental visits. Please tell your mom and Mr. HOTT, so than he can take full responsibility.

Answer 8

First of all you are not pregnant WITH a guy named Pete, you got pregnant BY a guy named Pete.  Secondly....you are 15, you are a baby yourself.  Consider putting this child up for adoption.  That is not abandoning it, that is being responsible and admitting that you know the child will be better off with people who can take better care of it.  I'm not saying you wouldn't love it or try to do your best but you are only 15, you are unemployed, uneducated and you don't have a good support system.  Give the baby to someone who can provide it with a future.

Answer 9

my dear for your sake pls keep the baby even though there's nothing at home,only god provides and a baby is a gift from god,dnt even think of abortion please it will be the biggest mistake ever.

Answer 10

Im not going to lecture you on how dumb that was to do, you obviously know you messed up.i know you want to keep your baby but adoption is not abandoning your baby its giving him a better life. my husband was adopted, his mother was 17 when he was born. she knew she couldnt take care of him and wanted him to have a better life. we recently got in contact with her and they have a great relationship. please don't force this baby to grow miserable just because you want to be selfish. you are only 15 and deserve to finish school and have a life. you need to do whats best for the two of you. there is nothing wrong with adoption. ill say it again it is not abandonment, it is better for the both of you. you also need to realize you did an adult thing and now you have to face it as an adult and sit you mother down and tell her exactly what happened. she will be mad at first but she will have more respect for you that you came clean. if you want any more info on adoption go to adoption.com and read up on it. also you can email me if you would like and i would be happy to talk to you a little more about how it affects the child.

Answer 11

Ok,calm down.I'm thirteen and 3 months.I made a mistake and just tipsy at a party and got pregnant by a 16 year old.You need to just be honest and tell him.I don't have a father figure either,so i came right out and told my mother,she was upset,because im an honor-roll student and never into trouble.But stuff happens.Please tell your mom,she will still love and support you!you need to see a Dr. and get yourself ready for this baby.We are very tight on money also.but sometimes you just have to make it work.your old enogh you work part time.so do it until you can't stand up anymore:]

its a great thing your SMART and not getting an abortion!Keep your baby and raise it the best you possibley can.He or she will love you no matter what.

good luck!!!

-dre.

Answer 12

Well, they say the best learned lesson is a hard learned lesson and this is one mistake I hope you never make again. You are very young and didn't use your head. However, I am so incredibly proud that you are thinking now and have decided not to abort this baby because it is very alive. :)

Lucky for you, there are a lot of help options available.  For starters, you can apply for pregnancy Medicaid. They pay for all of your doctor's visits related to your pregnancy and for the birthing of your baby (and to see a nutritionist if so ordered by your doctor.)  Then when the baby is born you can apply right away for Medicaid for your baby for the first year of life (because he/she will have a lot of doctors visits that first year!)

Additionaly, local health departments often offer free or discounted services related to family planning and medical care (often requiring proof of income.)

Before you tell your mom, I suggest you do some research first. Go into the situation well informed.  It will show her that even though you made a big big big mistake in judgment, you now are being mature and facing the consequences of your actions like an adult.  Get in contact with your local health department or DHS (or DHHS) (Department of Health and Human Services) because they can direct you to help in your local area and also provide pamphlets and other information.

Check out books from the library (or just hang out at the library for a while if you don't want your mom to know right away) and learn a little bit about your "condition."  You may find it somewhat exciting to learn about this little adventure you're about to go on.

Finally, when the time comes to break it to your mom, do it gently but firmly.  Wait until a time when neither one of you is stressed.  Tell her that you have something to talk with her about and maybe go sit in the living room with a nice cup of tea together (or something. I'm just going for mood, here).  Come right out and say it. Don't beat around the bush.  Be confident in yourself.  

Don't get me wrong, she will be shocked, she will be hurt, she will be mad and she will be scared.  Try soothing her by informing her that you realize the mistake you've made, but now that it has been done, you are looking forward to taking on that responsibility and then start laying out the information you've acquired to her. Tell her the things you've learned about your body and tell her the information you have found on medical assistance options and birthing options.  

Try discussing school options.  Staying in school is best for you and your child in your life later on. It may be hard at first (because you're what, in the 9th or 10th grade?) because if you really think about it, what job can you get without even a highschool diploma?  Not much, unless your dream is waitressing or house-keeping.  When school starts up again, you can talk to your school counselor, or talk to your mom about home-schooling, or try studying really really hard and going ahead and getting your GED when you turn 16.  With each of these options, you have to buckle down and study like a maniac. Use your time wisely. You now have much more on your plate than you did before, so use that stress-energy to fuel your work.  If you get your GED early, when you're ready, you can go ahead and start college. It doesn't take any time to get an Associates degree and that will set you up nicely for at least a modestly comfortable life with your child when it's time to get out on your own.  

I'm sorry for the poor decision you made, but I hope you continue to think of this as a very positive thing. Look forward to meeting your baby and make sure to take extra good care of yourself!  The best thing you can do is stay well informed. I highly recommend the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting." It is very informative and it goes month by month through your pregnancy. Though this has been long-advice, I hope you find it helpful. :) :) :) :) :)

Answer 13

Haha good luck, and if you don't want to abort it say good bye to your life what so ever. Or just have the baby. Take your mom being mad and dissapointed. Or runaway and go live with your boyfriend just like I did. But I don't have a baby. I'm 16. Or give the baby to your pete or whatever you call him. If you wanna keep it say goodbye to parties, going out, your money, your own room, (if you have one), and you HAVE to get a job now. But just get used to being stressed, and mad, and angry at yourself and that guy.

Answer 14

You've already dismissed abortion as an alternative, so I guess  you'll have to have the baby. Fine. That is going to be expensive too, just the pregnancy. I know you want to keep the baby, but that seems to be out of the question for three reasons, you can't afford to raise him. You will love him and want to provide the best you can. Financially, you can't do this. Reason two. You are only fifteen. If you devote your young life to this child, your future and his pretty much go down the drain. Your odds of even finishing high school get really bad. The last reason is, your mom already raised one family, hers. She shouldn't have to raise yours too.

The solution is open adoption. That is when another family raises the child, but you are in the picture. You are not financially responsible and a family that desperately wants a child has one, and you get to be a part of the child's life. He will always know who his birth mother is.

Think about it.

Lastly, don't lie. OK, you might not have had s*x with the HOTT guy, but look at the problems you could have avoided. Not only that, but he might have had protection and that would have solved some problems too.

Answer 15

I guess you have learnt the lesson the hard way ehh? You were bad lying to him that you were on birth control though!!!

At 15 are you ready for a child and can you cope? You say you cannot afford a baby so maybe you could consider adoption?

You must see your Mother and have a long talk as well as see the doctor. Would this boy support you?

Answer 16

let me see you having a baby no income to speek of how do you intend to support you baby do you know how much diapers cost doctor bills formula you doctor  and hospm bill will be ten thousand or more do your baby  a favor opt for a open adoption   take it from exp my son is 23 years old and his mother and I are raising a 9 mo old since birth I give him a lot of credit how many men would take on this endever they could never make it with out us  good luck my son woorks a good job and makes good money you cant support a baby on low wages

Answer 17

The best thing you can tell your mom and the baby father. Right now talk things out. But right now I think that the best thing for the baby is to give it up for adoption. The baby would have a better life and be well taken care of. There are couples out there that can't have their own children and are waiting to adopt a baby. You would need to help you mom. And babies are expensive..