HELP!!! am I a cheater????

Question

okay lets say I been with a guy since 02-05-06, and then I guess I kinda cheated if this guy took a vacation of 3 months and I was seeing other guys, and I knew I wasn't allow too! but i never kissed them or had s**y time or anything, and I seen like 3 guys maybe 4, in 06-06 and I kinda sat in the laps of a guy for like 20 secounds did I cheat.... and I havent seen another guy since 06-06 thats been over two years of me not seeing other guys... am I a cheater??? my bf is callin me names but i never had s*x with another guy like he says... [lease tell me im not a w***e!

Answer 1

you are if you think you are

Answer 2

No, you're not a cheater.

I don't think it matters to your bf though.  He is convinced you cheated and has even told you that you are a w***e.  He doesn't respect you as a woman or a person.  Nothing you say is going to change his mind.

You may as well leave him now because he will just keep on saying things to you forever.  You don't have his trust and he has control of you.  You will never be truly happy as long as he is in control of you.  

Answer 3

NO you didn't cheat and he shouldn't call you that.  I want you to picture this:  You see your boyfriend with a girl on his lap..sharing a smile and/ or a laugh.  A hug might be exchanged also.  How would you react?  You'd probably be like:  'What-the-**** was that ***** doing on your ******* lap?  Why didn't you tell her to get off if you didn't like it?  You must have liked it then huh?  You say you didn't sleep with her but how do I know that?  You looked like you were liking it until I showed up.

You see what I mean?  Maybe if you see it from a different angle.  If you get the idea here go tell him...'hey, I understand how you may be thinking..it wasn't cool of me and I'm truly sorry that I hurt or embarrassed you.

Answer 4

OK so 4 months into a relationship this guy you are with took a 3 month vacation away from you and expected you to be faithful the whole time? You really never kissed another guy and closest you got was sitting on his lap (probably some heavy flirting) and he is calling you all kinds of names and what not...

No you are not a w***e, no you really didn't do anything so horrible...I can see where he might be suspicious, but it is normally accuser who is the one who committed the crime.

If he is that unappreciative you can just come run away with me, I wish I could find a girl who would be the loyal that short into a relationship.

Answer 5

You skirted the line but no, you didn't cheat.  I think you came close but maybe hanging out with a few other guys helped you to see who you wanted to be with.

Answer 6

No, your bf is a jerk. Cheating in my world is s*x. If you have s*x with another guy you cheated. If you kissed another guy you were testing the waters of cheating. After you kiss a guy while in a relationship you have an idea of how you are going to fill after you have s*x with another guy. You are not a w***e maybe a flirt but not a w***e.  

Answer 7

no............

Answer 8

You really had only been together a month at that point, so it's not really all that bad. I could understand him being more upset if you had actually had s*x or if you were hanging out with one in particular a whole lot later on in the relationship... but that was over two years ago. What the heck are you worrying about it now for? If you have been completely faithful to him other than sitting on some other guys lap a month into the relationship then it really needs dropped.

Answer 9

No yr not a "cheater"  inless you do it multiple times..

&& yr not a w***e

Answer 10

No, you are not a cheater. But certainly that's not what you should do. It's wrong.

What about if your bf had 3 or 4 girls, and he let them to sit on his lap?