HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am in conflict true honest answers please?

Question

My sister in law and brother in law "who never wanted children of their own", have decided to adopt a new born baby girl. However they feel that any other children adopted are "b*****d " children and i am adopted and i am having a hard time accepting their decisions any solutions. thank u and god bless

Answer 1

I'm confused by your question.  So they are okay with this first baby girl, but other ones they will adopt in the future are b*****d children??  Or she's okay, but not all the other adopted people in the whole world?   Either way, they sound like they don't deserve a child.  I'd honestly call their adoption agency or whoever you can contact and let them know what they've said.  They need to be investigated further.  What pigs.

Answer 2

I don't think you need to accept their decision, and I don't think you should pay attention to their ignorant belief.  That's their problem - not yours.  

You know what I think will happen to them?  (I'm an adoptive mother, by the way.)  I think they'll adopt the baby girl, find themselves loving her in a way they never imagined anyone could ever love anyone else, start to realize how loved an adopted child can be, and eventually the pin will be in that ignorance balloon they have going there.

Something else that could happen is once the adoption people get the drift of their beliefs they may not be approved.

You know better than what they think.  Everyone in the world has to deal with ignorance somewhere along the way.  Overweight people live with ignorant people who think they eat ice cream and cake all day long when they may not.  Minority people have to deal with ignorance associated with their ethnic group.  Short people have to deal with ignorant people who think they're children because they're short.  People with a lot of money have to deal with people who hate them because they have money and think they're spoiled (even if they're nice, kind, people), and people without much money deal with stupid people thinking they're stupid (because they think "if they weren't they'd have money" - when it isn't that simple).  Children have to deal with people who talk down to them or don't respect them.  Animals have to deal with all kinds of ignorant treatment.  Kind of a depressing picture I've painted, isn't it.....

My point is in your case the ignorance you're dealing with happens to be about adoption.  Someone else has to deal with ignorance about something else.  Try not to pay attention to ignorance.  Just be who you are and be proud of who you are.

People who believe in God believe that God teaches lessons to some people.  If these people go through with the adoption and fall in love with that baby - more and more with every passing day, which is what happens whether you've adopted or given birth to your child - they may start to think God has taught them a lesson they needed to learn.

The other lesson could come if they find themselves being rejected for adoption because they're ignorance shows - and they can grow old without children and regret it.

Answer 3

well, it sounds as if your in-laws have no business adopting children. you should let their social worker or whoever is handling their adoption their true feelings. I would also let them know it offends you that they feel that way as you are adopted

Answer 4

You sister and brother in a law are not very bright. Children are a gift from God weather they come thought the parents through birth or adoption. Sounds like that they go out of their way to make people feel bad in order to make themselves feel important. Don't give what they said another thought.  Would you call Jesus what they said? Mary was pregnant with him before she wed Joesph and look how well he turned out. Don't get caught up in labels and stuff that people used to us back in the day to discriminate against others with

Answer 5

The definiton of b*****d, simple means a child born outside a marrigage.  About 30 percent of the world meets this criteria.  Simply choose not to be insulted by their ideas.  You choose how your react  and respond to other's  behavior.

Answer 6

Why would you even care what they think?

Answer 7

Think about talking to them and tell them you want to give them some feedback, since you were adopted.  See if they will listen.  Tell them how it feels to hear them talk this way.  Ask them to please consider this before they adopt.  

These are some very inappropriate and selfish people who in my book, should not have children!  I am so sorry you have to experience this.  Just chalk it up to there being some awful people in this world.

I feel so sorry for any child they would parent -- through biology or adoption.

If all else fails, or you just cannot talk directly to them try having another family member talk to them -- one of their mothers?  You can also make an anonymous call to the adoption agency's Social Worker -- and tell her how they really feel.  If not now, you may be making a Children's Protective Services call in a few years.  So sad.

Good luck with this!!