HELP my family is falling apart?

Question

my uncle married this women and she completely changed things. On christmas eve usually my whole family gathers at my grandparents house and open presents from the relatives and just hang out. 2 years ago when my cousin was born my aunt decided to confront my mom and tell her that they weren't coming on christmas eve because they didn't think it was appropriate for us to open presents before christmas day. I started crying because at the time i was 12 and thought that our tradition was going to be ruined. My daddy went up to his brother and was like " listen, our family has been doing this same tradition for 36 years and now you decide that it isn't worth doing." so that year we all went to my other aunt and uncle's house and they did not attend at all. So the next year they came to my grandma's and just refused to open our gifts. oh yeah did i mention that my grandpa is now furious at us for not wanting to include them. ok this problem doesnt stop with christmas. This year my cousin graduated from high school. my grandpa yelled at my cousin for not inviting my other aunt and uncle to graduation dinner. the following week was her birthday. My aunt and uncle that dont like us have two little kids and my cousin wanted to go to dinner at the cheesecake factory for her birthday. Well she didnt want to crying babies to go. My grandpa refused to go due to the fact that my cousin didnt quite invite them. so my grandma came and talked c**p about my cousin which i love to death. UGH it makes me so mad... i need help. i dont know what to do because i want nothing to do with my grandparents and my aunt and uncle because they pout and complain and just cause problems. and i cry all the time because they just are making this family fall apart.

Answer 1

Well, this is a drama-filled story, but not unusual. It happens and you are going to have to get busy with things that are important to you.

There is very likely nothing that you can do. I'm guessing that if you DO say anything, then the new "bad guy" will be guess who? YOU.

You need to show up and make an excuse to leave after a VERY short time. You probably have better things to do than be embroiled in this. You are not alone. More families are dysfunctional than are NORMAL (whatever that is).

Answer 2

You should just tell them how you feel everything is falling apart even for you. Don't keep it all inside. Too much pressure.

Answer 3

It is hard i know.

But you have 2 choices.

You can let a troubled family drag you down too  or you can rise above all that and get on with YOUR life.

You decide.

Answer 4

If i was your parents I would have went to your grandparents and kept up the tradition and if that miserable women didnt want to go then your uncle should have kept that miserable controlling woman at home what is wrong with your parents honor thy mother and father and respect your elders and whoever doesnt want to play nice with the family stay home this is the way it goes at my house when we have get togethers if you cant be respectful stay home

Answer 5

Try to get your family back by finding a date that everyone is free on and plan a nice dinner party. It'll bring everyone back together and make sure everyone is invited. Talk to your mom and dad about it. If things don't get better, talk to a cousin or sibling in the same position as you.