HELP- should i lose this guy or what ?- men and women?

Question

i was seeing this guy and we decided to stop simply bc we are both busy and i wanted to plan like a day or 2 days ahead when we could see each other. i dont see a problem with that. it made him mad. we are both 31and have other friends, family, ect.... it would always aggravate him or he would say i cant tell you till the day before or the day of. he would get a little upset when i already had plan but what am i suppose to do not make plan bc he might call. well sat. i asked him - monday would you want to hang out at 730. he said 80 percent certain- 10 percent late- 10 misc.- other plans, sick, ect.. he said i cant say for sure and i dont like making plans. in my opinion if a man wants you, he will plan 2 to 3 days ahead of time- not detailed plans, but at least days to see each other. i would do that for a friend. i feel like he is being childish bc i do not need to see the person i am dating daily, but what is wrong asking a day, two, three ahead. is he being a jerk and selfish

Answer 1

MARIE !

I totally understand you, some guys just dont understand that us women sometimes like to live their life with a bit of order and know where they are going to be and what they are doing..

I mean do they seriously expect you to hang around planning nothing, waiting around like a lemon until they call you.

I would get rid if you cant change him because that would drive me mad!! I started seeing a guys a while back who was like that and in the end i told him i was not wasting my life wating around for him and to be honest if they really want to see you they will make the effort.

Im sure you deserve more than this.x

Answer 2

Well, I can empathize with this guy on the not wanting to make plans thing.  Some people just love spontanuity.  However, this does not mean I object to making any kinds of plans, especially with the one I love.  

Maybe this guy isn't ready for a relationship and feels held down by one right now.  Maybe he just needs his space for a while.  What I would do in your situation is not make any plans with him and wait for him to make some with me.  Oh and make sure you do not drop what you are doing and come to him just because he called you when you already had plans.  That lets him know that he has power over you and may end up with you being in an abusive relationship.

Do what you want, just be careful!