HELP! teacher problems!?

Question

Ok, we just started school again and i got this really cool teacher for my english class. At least thats what i thought, I was blushing (as always) and she totally stopped doing what she was doing and pointed out that i was blushing!! i hate when i blush so it really bothers me, plus she like touched my face and i pushed her hand away, was that rude? i feel kinda bad. And whenever she shakes hands with people she will stop and say I CAN'T TOUCH YOU! reallly loud!

She is just rubbing me the wrong way, any advice on how i can deal with it until the year ends?

Answer 1

Ask if you can speak to her before class.  Don't be aggressive or angry, just explain to her that blushing is something about which you are embarrassed.  Ask her for her help; ask her to deflect attention from you when you blush, rather than calling attention to it.

Truthfully, she doesn't sound particularly sensitive or kind, but that doesn't make her a bad teacher.  Think of this as a learning experience; life is going to give you lots of people with whom you aren't comfortable.  This is a chance to practice dealing with them in a way that doesn't get you too upset.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Catch her before or after class and explain to her that you're not a baby and don't want to be treated that way, that you would prefer not to be touched and not to be humiliated in class, that you would prefer to handle this the adult way and that you expect her to follow your wishes.  If that doesn't work and force her into submission and make her look like a fool, talk to the principal or a counselor or your parents.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like she thought the two of you had established a rapport (you thought she was cool and she thought you were too), because of this it seems she got a little too friendly, too fast.  You need to think about how you treat your friends, don't we pick on/tease our friends sometimes?  I think that her reactions to you now are teasing.  I don't think her original action of pointing out your blushing was meant to embarrass you intentionally.  I am not condoning what she is doing but I want you to see that I don't think she means it maliciously.

Go talk to her.  Adults can have conversations in which they share their thoughts without being defensive or rude.  Start with, "You know when you pointed out my blushing the other day?  Well, that made me feel ____ because _____".  Always use this format to open, no one can every argue with you about how you feel.  Continue to use "I" statements - statements in which you talk about yourself.  "I felt bad when I pushed your hand away.  But I did so because ___."  "I feel like now ____."  

I bet she doesn't even realize how these things make you feel.  I bet she will be very happy that you came to her.  Good luck!