HELP!!! what is his deal

Question

so...i met my friend baldy at work when he first started a year ago... and we were cool from the start... as time progressed we would flirt more and more and he has as girlfriend of 3 years, shes lived with him and his family for those 3 years, but she went to visit her mother in a town about an hour away for about 2 months, and in those two months we have spent EVERY night together, there was not one *** ht when we werent together... we had s*x.. and i might even be pregnant :| but heres my q uestion...he tells me that he can be himself more around me than he can with her, he says he has more fun with me, Ive met his family and they love me. they dont even like her, shes lived there for 3 years and his extended family lives RIGHT next door, shes been over there once in those 3 years, ONCE and ive been over there for the past 2 months like everyday, shes a year older than him, she has NO job, and lives off of him and his mother. I told him i wanted to be with him and he told me he liked me but in the back of his mind he still thinks about her... whats his deal? he can be himself more around me than with her, he has more fun with me, his fa mily loves me, I know who his friends are. [She has no idea who they are]...she sits around the house all day and does no thing but watch tv and go on the computer... WHATS HIS DEAL?!?!?!

Answer 1

He's a cheater and he doesn't know what he wants.  Be careful that he's not using you while she's away.  

Answer 2

You get sexually involved with a man who has been in a long term relationship and is cheating on his girlfriend and you might be pregnant by him now. What's YOUR deal?

Why do you expect him to be of a higher quality than he has proven himself to be?

Answer 3

You all sound like young kids playing with grownup issues.  But, that's not the question.  

YOU:  Continue to put down his girlfriend in order to make yourself seem more important.  There is obviously something about her and that's why she is his GF and you are  not.  If one day, you became his GF, one day YOU could be the one dissed by someone trying to make a move on your BF.

HIM:  Very young and immature.  But, it sounds as if all of you are.  But, he is taking advantage of you and his GF.  He will continue to tell you the things you want to hear and will keep his GF around as long as she tolerates him.

You really should get out of the situation -- have higher self-esteem and be with someone who cherishes you.

Oh and use protection during any sexual activity.  Not only could you be pregnant but could very well have a VD.

Next.

Answer 4

The wounded gazelle theory...she is wounded,hopless and lost-SHE NEEDS HIM. It makes him feel good to know that he is needed. When he is with her he feels like the Prince Charming. I have watched men all my do this and it never ceases to amaze me. I have a friend who was in a relationship with a beautiful young woman inside and out. This young lady ahd her masters degree and  her own business. He dropped her for a Nimcompoop who was a highschool drop out with 3 kids (3 different  fathers. GO FIGURE!

Answer 5

He is saying and doing all the things he has to do to get you to provide him with s*x while his real girlfriend is gone.  As soon as she is home again he is going to treat you like dirt.  You better hope you aren't really pregnant or he is going to make your life living h**l.

Answer 6

OH MY.   He is a definite cheater and will do this all through his life not only with you but many....get out asap!!!!!!!!!  This is the type you need to avoid.....big time.