HELP with my 1 year old!!?

Question

I am trying to get him to sleep in his own crib.

My son sleeps in between Daddy and I since birth.

Now he is taking up the whole bed, kicking Daddy all night.

He also breastfeeds, merely for comfort at night, he doesn't sleep the whole night either, he sleeps a few hours, wakes half asleep hunts for a boob then nurses and goes back to sleep.

This was fine until he got more aggressive at night.

We have tried laying in his crib after I get him to fall asleep, he woke 2 hours later, I tried to let him stay there but had to fetch him after his crying reached a panicked pitch.

What can I do so that we ALL have a good night sleep.

I don't know about letting him cry until his little voice is strained.

I need to know what works,

if he will cry how many days does it take

How long to let him cry before reassuring we didn't leave him

How can we make this less painless on all of us.

If I try to put him in his crib directly he will scream angrily and then start to cry

Answer 1

Put him in his crib, and no matter WHAT he does, do not go in there to get him. He is learning that if he screams and cries enough you will give in and he will get what he wants, so leave him in his crib. If he starts screaming, go in there and in a stern voice tell him "NO, it's bedtime. Stop screaming." and then go back to bed, and leave him for the night.

Answer 2

well i am going through a similar problem. my one year old doesn't sleep through the night either but thankfully i finally got him in his crib, in a differ room then my husband and I. He to slept with us, right in the middle. then he would try to lay sideways and just really not good for me and my hubby. so we asked our Dr and he said that we wouldn't sleep till we got him out of or room completely. so we moved him into his own room. and i would just try to lay him down and he would cry. so i got in there and laid with him and we would watch a DVD (like in our room) it took about i think 2-3 wks and one day he pushed me away at nap time and i never had to do it again. he would just lay down and go to sleep ( with the help of his spongebob DVD). but he just wont sleep through the night, he gets up twice after 2am.

good luck and i hope that maybe i could help.

Answer 3

well, there is no timetable for it. babies dont come with user manuals. try moving the crib into your room. make sure he has a hearty dinner so that his midnight craving for boob juice has ebbed. full belly, close to mommy and daddy. we are going through the same thing and succeded this past week.  you will need to be strong and let him cry, possibly for a while. you can say anything while he is screming because when he is screming its for attention. if you indulge him then he will know when he cries he gets what he needs and this pattern will escalate to everything else,eating, bathing etc. aside from being the loving person in his life, you also need to be the one in control, authoritative.

Answer 4

try keeping him on your side of the bed, not between you and hubby. he might just be feeling squished in the middle of the night. to prevent him from falling off, put a long pillow (body pillow, king size pillow, or several queen size pillows) UNDER the fitted sheet and lining the perimeter of the bed. this way, there is a barrier, but he can't roll under the pillows/ knock them off. just a suggestion...it's what we do. when dd2 was born, we also started using 2 beds (king size and queen size) pushed together.

if you really think it's time to transition, try starting with naps only. then after he's used to naps in his bed, start on the nights...it might be good to have his bed in your room at first. maybe right beside the bed or at the foot. then move it across the room. then to his room. it sounds like a lot of work, but in the long run, i'd say it would be less traumatic than a sudden change...

Answer 5

you need to figure out what works best for you and him. if you want him in his bed start putting him in there and then shut the door. dont go back to pick him up just let him cry. it will take about a week or so but be consistent. do the same thing for his naps so he gets use to his bed and not yours.

Answer 6

i just got my daughter out of our bed and she is two now... i've been sticking my shrit or dress that i was wearing that day down in her crib first then her.. and if she wakes up in the mddle of the night i would put her in our bed and when she falls a sleep again i would stick her back in her crib i also put her in her crib while she is taking a nap.