HELP with spoiled horse rider?

Question

well she is only riding because her mom wants her to she claims she loves it but really doesnt how do i find a clever way to trick her to quit i dont want any simpathy i just want the answer to my question PLESE help me if she still rides here i have no horses to ride in my lessons, well ones that i can actually learn something on.

Answer 1

just leave it alone.  You don't know how much she really likes it, do you?  Maybe she just wants to please her mom, you have no right to trick her out of riding.  If its a lack of horses that is your problem talk to your trainer and tell her concerns.  If nothing is done, switch barns.  But really, leave her alone.

Answer 2

Okay, you just came on this web site to ask for suggestions on how to trick someone who somehow keeps you from riding the horse you want, and you say SHE's the one who is spoiled?

Maybe you could just change lesson times and avoid the whole thing. Maybe you could ask your instructior about finding ways to ensure that you ride the horse you want at least some of the time. If she doesn't really like riding, she will quit eventually anyway. And you can learn something from any horse if you stop worrying about what others are doing and worry about your own business and your own lesson.

Answer 3

If she likes to bug you, it's because you are letting it show that she gets to you.  Talk to your instructor if you aren't satisfied with the horses you are given to ride.  Get your mind off of her and on to something more productive...ignore her.

Answer 4

Has she told you herself she doesnt like it? Maybe shes just nervous because shes only starting out...

It is UNFAIR to MAKE her quit because you personally dont think she is suited to the sport.

If she gets bored of it, SHE can be the one to tell her Mum - this is really none of your business.

If it were me in your lesson, Id try and make you quit!

If you are concerned about the horses you ride, talk to your instructor. You have to have all kinds of horses to ride on to learn things, you should be swapping round every week.

I wouldnt be surprised if your friend comes on yahoo answers to ask a question something similiar to 'Help, my friend is being horibble to me by trying to push me out of our lesson'...

Lesson in life:

Treat others how you want to be treated yourself.

Answer 5

You can't trick somebody into qutting.

They have to make up their mind to do it in their own time.

However, I cannot believe what you are saying?!?

Do you really love horseback riding? Do you really love horses? Why is it so necessary that you are riding the horse this girl is riding? Sounds to me like you may be just a little jealous. Why can't you be happy with the horse you are currently riding? You are SO lucky to be riding in the first place! There are people that would love to be riding but don't have the opportunity! Instead of focusing on this girl and what she's doing wrong, focus on your riding abilities and getting better. Create a bond with the horse you ARE riding! There's nothing wrong with him or her! And if you say you CAN'T learn something on this horse and you have not ridden the ones you think you will be able to, what makes you KNOW that you will be able to learn something on them? You don't know these horses. Keep working. If you don't feel like you are learning anything from the horse you are currently riding, ask your lesson instructor to move you to a horse better suited for your level.

Just whatever you do: you are only sabatoging yourself by hating this girl. Focus on what you want to do, not what you want HER to do.

Answer 6

There are people who will do things just to get under other peoples' skin.  You cannot control that.  Nothing anybody here tells you will control that.

It doesn't matter how mean she is.

It doesn't matter what a snot she is.

It isn't anyone's business but her mother's if she wants to waste money on lessons...and it's rather obnoxious of anyone to assume it is...

That being said, the only way you can win this game is not to play.  The biggest enjoyment ******* like this get is in the reactions of the with whom they are toying.

If there's absolutely no way to reschedule so you can have the horse you want to ride at another time, then suck it up and act like you're thrilled to ride another.  Don't tell ANYONE your wicked little secret...but start gushing to your friends this chick knows how WONDERFUL a certain horse is, how much you're learning, how much you love it...if she tries to push your buttons through them, just laugh and say that you love riding so much that you don't even notice her pathetic behavior.  

You should master the laugh followed by "She said WHAT?  My, isn't THAT silly?  How funny!!!" and then change the subject.  Don't trust ANYONE, because being absolutely convincing is the only way this works.  If someone leaked it to her, it would just fuel the fire.

That's how to fix it...really fix it for good.

The ultimate lesson here is that you cannot control somebody else's behavior...only your reaction to it.

You can either be the mature party, or just the other end of her silly games.  Your choice.

Answer 7

im not being funny but grow up like you cant make somebody quit just because they want to ride the same horses that you do there must be more than one horse so if she rides one you ride the other.  to be honest this girl probably enjoys riding more than you do as she is just getting on with it and having fun whereas you are trying to make it a drama probably because you are bored with your own life and maybe riding - if your the one tryin to find faults with riding and not just getting on with it and just being glad to be on a horse and whatever horse you are on you can learn something even if its just improving your position and technique im sure you arent the greatest rider in the world

Also tbh you seem like the spoiled rider whos throwing a strop over not getting her way with who she gets to ride

Answer 8

You can't trick this girl into quitting. Trust me, as she gets older, either she'll realize she loves this sport or she'll beg her mom to quit. You are a peer, and it's not your responsibility to get her to quit. Just stay out of it. You're probably a better rider than she is anyways.

Answer 9

Just let her do it in her own time, frankly stooping down to her level to "trick" her to quit so you can ride a horse is not a very good thing to do. if she really doesnt like it she will quit

Answer 10

well i really don't have a good answer for this one. i think this is something you shouldn't get involved with. i think you should just leave it alone and be nice to her. well good luck with everything. hope i helped Sabrina

Answer 11

Don't do anything. If you convince her to stop, then you'll probably have a lot of problems. Are you sure that she doesn't like it? Maybe she does.

Answer 12

your trainer probably put you on the horse you ride now for a reason. i have had to ride horses that i absolutly HATED but i sucked up and dealt with it. the more horses you ride, the better rider you will become. learn to ride your current horse so well that your trainer will realize you need a change. its far more effective than attempting to force someone else off.

also, if this girl really, truly hates riding, then trust me, her mother would be able to figure it out. riding is not the type of sport where parents push their kids to continue (unless the family is uber-rich or the kid has some freakish ability).

also, if you are so obsessed with a specific horse, ASK YOUR TRAINER WHY YOU AREN'T RIDING IT! maybe you are being prepared for a better and more talented horse. thats what happened to me.

Answer 13

She has just as much of a right as you do to ride. We get this horse/girl drama with the little girls at my barn. And they get asked to leave. If you dont like how things are going the CHANGE barns. No one is forcing you to stay where you are. It is cruel to try trick a girl to quit just so you can have her horse. It really it.

EDIT:

I know a girl that HATES horses and she went to pony finals last year on a $120,000 pony that was prequalified by another girl whose parents couldnt afford to take her. I would have given anything to watch the event let alone compete. It happens. The only thing you can do is suck it up and know that you are doing what you love. If she is causeing a huge problem then tell your trainer what is going on (in a NON whiny/obnoxious way). If things dont improve then leave. I have left more than one barn that had obnoxious girls that fought over the best ponies and tack.

Answer 14

She should be honest and tell her mother if she does not like to ride  By not doing this, she is not being honest with herself.

Answer 15

First off..  GROW UP.  your question is pure selfish interest.  " if she still rides here i have no horses to ride in my lessons, well ones that i can actually learn something on..."  You ARE NOT THE ONLY PERSON IN THE WORLD

heres another thing.  Parents can make children do things that children dont want to do.  And children at times pretend to like things they dont...at other times they pretend to hate things they love.  How do you know she doesnt like riding? if she says she loves it, why trick her into quiting.

Answer 16

she should tell her mom...

Answer 17

Im not meaning to be rude or anything...But you should think about what you're saying.

You're claiming that she's a spoiled brat and shouldnt deserve to ride b/c she is making her mother pay for an expensive horse riding lesson that she doesnt even like, and that she is riding the horses you want to ride.

You're also claiming that you want her to leave because she is riding the horses you want to ride, she is annoying you, and you want to rudely trick her out of it

You are assuming things about her too much

-Maybe she does like riding but she just doesnt want to say she does

-Maybe she doesnt mean to annoy you, maybe she just wants to be your friend

-Maybe she wants to ride the horses you ride b/c she likes to ride them

Think about others, not just yourself. It isnt your riding barn, they arent your horses, and you arent her. Therefore, you cannot make or trick her into doing somthing she doesnt want to do. Let her do whatever she wants, and she will let you do whatever you want.

If it really bugs you, just change stables, there is no need to make her change stables just b/c you dont want to

Sorry for having to be mean, but I really hope things work out