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HELPP ME PLEASE IM NOT GOING BACK?

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I’m getting real frustrated with this situation and really don’t know what to do. I sometimes spend the night at my boyfriend’s house so that we can spend some time together but he stays with two room-mates. He owns the house but giving them a place to stay rent free, for whatever reason. When I go over to his house I have to put a number on how many times I use the bathroom because there isn’t enough tissue, most of the time it’s one roll that has already been used up half way by the time I get there. So between me releasing my bodily fluids and blowing my nose because of allergies that one roll gets used up very quickly with 4 individuals in the house. So, my boyfriend tells me I use to much tissue and I told him if they wouldn’t just buy one roll at a time then it wouldn’t leave so quickly. Then, I have this other issue where I have to bring my own soap because chances are they don’t have any for me to take a shower with. Then I have to bring my own food if I want to spend the night or something to drink just in case I get thirsty and even water because they have water but no ice to make it cold. Then the bathroom stinks because it needs a good cleaning and the kitchen floor needs to be mopped because it’s stuff all over the floor. Then, when I do take a shower I have to close do door with a towel stuck on the side because his room-mate was stuck in the bathroom and they had to take the door k**b off. Then on the days I go to work from there I have to get dress in a d**n near dark room to keep the lights from waking my boyfriend up because I can go into another part of the house to get dressed because I’m scare that one on his friends are going to wake up and see me naked. It feels weird as if he not grown and have his own. He goes to his mother s house to eat, use the bathroom, and wash his clothes and to shower and sleep sometimes. We can’t go to my house because I stay with my mom for relocation reasons. Then I could help him with all of the necessities for his house and keep it clean for him but I’m not going to do that while he has his roommates. I feel like we still both stay with our parents when in reality one of us just do. I hate going over there because I feel like I’m going on a camping trip because I have to bring all of this stuff. Now he tells me when I come to stay the night don’t forget to bring a roll of tissue so you can have it. I’m like wow all of this just to stay at someone’s house, when you are just visiting. Well, I need your help on what should I do because I’m really thinking about just telling him that I’m not going to be coming back over there anymore until he get privacy and make it suitable for a guest or me to come over. And the killing part about it is that he keeps asking me to come over and I don’t know why when he knows it’s not comfortable. Tell me what you would do in this situation. I refuse to buy anything for the house because for one I don’t stay and I refuse to take care of two other grown men.

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  1. This IS frustrating and will cause strain on your relationship if you do not address it with your boyfriend. If they don't care about keeping a home in which they can have visitors then they shouldn't have visitors over and shouldn't expect people to visit. I had a boyfriend once with the same kind of place. I always felt like I needed a shower when I got home. I brought me down everytime I went over there and it caused me to resent him. One day I left and I never came back, never even spoke to him again. All because his lack of taking care of his place showed me that he was not mature enough.

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