HOW CAN MY GRANDMA stop having these dreams?

Question

about 40 yrs ago and 50 yrs ago, my grandma lost her son and daughter, both who died of diseases. After so long, now she's having dreams of them and they keep running around her legs and singing. she said its scary..what does it mean? and how can she make it stop?

Answer 1

I'm sorry for your grandmother's losses - it is obvious that even after all these years those feelings run deep.

What a tragic thing to lose two children a decade apart to disease.  It is not in the expected natural order of life that we lose children - it happens but is the last thing a parent wants to live to see.  Dreams of closure are fairly common and can occur weeks, months or years after the death of a loved one.  What is peculiar in her case is that now after all these decades she is having these dreams.  They are also not typical 'closure' dreams, but are most unusual in nature.

I cannot tell how old her children were when they died by what you've written, but by '40 years' and '50 years' ago and that they run around her legs singing I take it they were children that died.  If they were older - perhaps in their teens - she may be 'seeing' them as younger children in a time of healthier being.

What may be scary about the dream is the surreal nature of it.  That they are present in the manner you describe is odd and could be disturbing - especially given that 'they are not supposed to be here' - there's a supernatural feel to the thing that would not be comforting.

But it may help her to consider that these children appear as if in a time before their final illnesses - able to run about and sing - vital in nature.  As discomforting as it may be after all the years that she laid them to rest in peace, now this - but they do appear as if energetic - not ill.  Their nature - vital - may be related to closure, even after all this time.  But what works against her getting a peaceful meaning from this may simply be that she accepted the losses long ago, at least so it may have seemed.

So, why this 'visit' now?  While she may have accepted the losses in some ways, she may have been too busy with life's demands to really allow her grieving to mature and give her a full subconscious release.  Now, after all these decades, life likely has changed - and she may be reflecting some on things past with a bit more time for leisurely drifting.  Again though, the time that has past now serves to make the event unnerving - it 'shouldn't be'.  

But, the mind is a quirky and mysterious thing that can subconsciously bring back many things of the past that are not fully resolved - all while the waking, conscious mind finds them illogical - and therefore possibly discomforting or even scary.  Time is the great displacer here - a dream that may have once meant a sweeter awareness of her children no longer suffering but existing in a sickness free place now is out of place all these decades later.

It may help her to reflect on these points and consider that life's changes in later years have left her mind freer to allow these needed reflections surface - needed so as to allow her to see these children as 'OK' in a sense.  But with that the time that has past somehow has made the thing nearly irrelevent - and now it seems unnatural and therefor scary in nature.  

There may even be a sadness coupled with it - as though she feels a bit 'haunted' - maybe even that she 'should have done more'.  If she finds some of that in her she should release it - those children would have known her love and caring and would never want her to feel that way - no doubt all was done that could be done at the time.

Help your grandmother to reflect on these things.  She would have to be the one to decide how well they fit, but they may help her stir some deeply buried feelings to the surface of her conscious mind where she can deal with them and find peace.  It may also help to emphasize that her love was known by those children and that while advances may have made some things possible today, no doubt all was done then that could be, whatever the sicknesses were.

Somehow the scary nature of what she is experiencing must be converted to the realization of what I describe - and she should find a release of any guilt or feelings of 'wishing to have done more'.  She needs to come to feel that these children are at peace.  

Depending on her beliefs, she may find that she can have faith that she will see them again in a happier place and way - but at the very least she can know that her best efforts were realized and that her love was known by these two children.

I hope that some of this may help.  All the best to you and your grandmother.

Answer 2

I think its a visit and they are telling her they are ok relax

Answer 3

It is very possible that the son and daughter are trying to contact her ....... >My guess< trying to say that they are alright so she doesn't have to worry anymore.

As for the meaning i did about 30 min of research and heres what i came up with.

Dreaming of passed away live simply means that your grandma can't bear the lost of losing loved ones. Some people might not show it but deep down everyone has something they will miss or care about forever.

To make your stop dreaming of this. I suggest you make a dream weaver. Or dream catcher as some might call it. Here is how one looks like.

http://www.dreamcatcher.com/home.php

Its better to make one your self. Make sure you Get blue berry's and a cross.Get a needle and run the string your going to use threw the berry's. You any color string you want. After that make the catcher. Google it and they will teach how to make your own. Then just hang it above your Grandma's head where she sleeps.

Another way is to replace the loved ones with something else.

Although  I don't recommend this. May cause her to have more of those dreams.

Answer 4

Why is she scare? Their death have nothing to do with her, and what they are trying to show her, is that they are fine even in death.

What they try to assure your Grandma that Death is not the end of all things. They are singing because they want to express their joy of carefree life.

I think deep down your Grandma is scare of dying, if she just accepts death is not the final episode, then her kids will turn adults and kiss her goodbye, and tell her they will be waiting for her patiently for the family reunion one day.

Answer 5

I think they are trying to tell your gran-ma something.  Here is what I have.  

If you should dream of a deceased person and this person speaks only to you , pay close attention to what the spirit is telling you as it could be very important to you.  To dream of seeing a deceased person is normally a dream of warning, and it tells you that the influences around you at this time does not bode well for your affairs.  

Although it kind of scary to see some one in a dream that has passed on.  Try to listen to what they are singing.  They carry a message.  When she get the message the dreams should stop.